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using sex to overcome sexual trauma

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  1. ThereIsHope

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    So I am a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse...

    And ive recently realized that because sex is one of the first things I remember doing, it is the only way for me to truly connect with my personal sense of tenderness, innocence, and "inner child"...which is very contradictory and leaving me kind of confused and like I've been misleading myself through a delusion that denying sex will somehow bring me healing and a complete life...come to find out i couldnt have been more mistaken...

    and I come to find myself with a partner who has never explored her sexuality, I feel like she cannot help me get the healing and release from sex that I really need because she does not seem to relate to those feelings the way I do... I am finding myself craving gay sex and group sex alot lately, and feel really depressed and sad at the end of the day when its just been struggling to help this housewife find a house to fuss over...

    Please Help! I am feeling really distraught, like I need to run away from and become a gay porn star, but I dont even know how to carry that out...
     
  2. Johnathan Waters
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    Maybe try expressing these deep feelings to your mate, she may not react well at first but later on would appreciate your honesty better than just leaving her wondering if it was something she'd done or been.
     
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    I feel like the issue here is that you never really overcame your childhod trauma. You say yourself that it seems to be the root of your problem now.

    Have you talked to someone about the incident ? Did you see a professional after that ? How did your family react ? Maybe finding an answer to all these questions is gonna be helpful to you.

    Besides, I feel like you do not really consider your current situation to be an issue. Which is kinda problematic as well, cause healing fire with fire doesn't really seem to be a good idea.

    Just like the comment above said, you should also express yourself to your significant other. Talking and communicating can help so much, I hope you find peace within yourself and with this whole situation.
     

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