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Ugh dating websites

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    who said dating was easy? I am on this dating website where i clearly stated i have only recently come out as bi and that i have not dated women before but been crushing on women. Last relationship with a guy was 6 yrs ago. I am looking for women going through the same. Friends basically. A lady writes me and asks for my phone number and i reply and tell her i dont give it out easily esp on the internet. Then she suggested meeting but wouldnt even give me her name and when i said id prefer getting to know her first she accused me of just playing around and she does not understand it why i wont meet her. I find it pretty rude...or am i too careful? Thoughts?
     
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    Oh that's common on dating websites.
    What happens is there are a lot of " just curious people" who eventually get scared and never meet after months of talking, so people want to meet up front to make sure you're real. But yeah. It's odd if they won't say who they are. Be careful
     
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    On dating websites being bi also my experience has been it's harder than being gay or Straight because I have friends that are both and been on dating sites and they didn't have the same trouble I have some people think your confused and that you'll switch teams on them because you don't really know what you want but people who aren't bi often don't get that we were born this way as they were born gay or Straight
     
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    Thank you for your comment Being.
    That makes total sense to me. Because it is annoying when you talk and you click but one person wont meet up. Almost like catfish haha. But as she said to me "i bet if i were a guy youd meet me right away". I knew i had to stop talking to her. Id prefer a date with a woman right now. But rude is rude. The gender is of no importance.
     
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    Crazy isnt it? You would think they understand. I have never been a fan of online dating. But im shy so i tried it. Still not a fan haha. I understand that its upsetting some women are married and want fool around with a woman and then go back to their guys...that i get is upsetting. They dont want an emotional connection. But like you said...we did not choose this. It just is the way it is. I like the word pansexual because its about the person. Thank you for your input. I feel a lot better:) 
     
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    Dating websites are rough, personally I've never had much success on them cause everyone is more interested in hooking up rather than getting to know each other (but maybe I've just had shitty experiences) :/
     
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    I’m sorry, but if I’m on a dating app and someone says they are just looking for friends, I know that means they are just looking for casual hookups . Or at least that’s been my experience. I do think it’s extremely odd if the person you are talking to won’t give you a real name , though. I think you did the right thing by stopping the conversation. Hopefully that woman was just a one off and that you’ll find what you’re looking for . I’ve used dating apps twice now, both times I met a long term gf in less than a day . But apparently that’s not the same for everyone. Good luck
     
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    Oh gods! I can't imagine meeting someone straight away! It takes me ages getting comfortable enough for the littlest thing and I have only ever been on one kinda date before in my whole 30 years of life. I am going to die alone due to anxiety and asexuality :( 
     
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    I'v never had any luck on dating sites. People move too fast for my liking and the amount of times people get all bitchy if you don't immediately go on video calls to "prove you'r real". I could send a selfie of me standing next to the pc with the post on the screen and it still wouldn't be good enough!

    I just want to talk to people via messages before I pluck up the courage because I can't do phone calls - I hate them.
     
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    I can understand why people are like that. A lot of people like to trick people online so this is their way of making sure they're not getting catfished.
     

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