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Top/Bottom roles?

Discussion in 'Gay' started by pjhanes0313, Oct 19, 2016.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Theory Elias Nygma
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    Oh, you don't have to be all stern to be a Dom. Most subs would be delighted to bring a smile to their master's face.
    I've had anxiety and insecurity problems as well, and it kept me from doing BDSM for a long time. But you just have to keep taking the steps to being your ideal self. You get more confident every time you push yourself to do it.
    For me, doing research by not only googling, but also trying out subbing helped me a lot. I get less nervous the more prepared I feel. The next step was trying out long distance domination via discord. It's easier to find a match since I'm in a queer bdsm discord server, and less of a hassle.
    And yes, I think chastity play is what you think it is. With cages, though you don't necessarily have to use it. Being the keyholder is all about controlling and owning your sub's pleasure. They're not allowed to get off without permission. It's really fun.
    --- Double Post Merged, Aug 19, 2018 ---
    "Is there really a stigma against bottoms" was directed specifically to you.
    The rest, directed at the general audience.
     
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    Oh no Gay guy nothing negative about you.
     
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    Thanx for all the info! It's scary but undoubteldy made me feel relieved at the same time to know that Doms get nervous at first and be considerate for Subs. I just learnt what the discord is. I had no idea things are proceeding in that area, too. LOL

    "controlling and owning your sub's pleasure"
    God! This sounds extremely sexy. LOL
     
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    It's not hate for them, but over expression of femininity doesn't match the range of guys I prefer or who I can give much of respect. To me they are something I had been avoiding to be looked as whole my life since I'm a trans guy. So, I can't help projecting myself there, you know what I mean? So my case is not general idea, I guess?

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    Like Dru0511 said, I also think this musculinity worship is directly connected to somewhat degrading of femme population. Long years of Gay = sissy type of representation might have brought major rebound from other gay groups.
     
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    I'm a mix between a submissive verse and a power bottom. But if master wants me to be totally submissive that's fine.
     
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    im a top/dom
     
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    Haven’t had sex yet but I’d be both. I want to look at someone while I’m doing them and I also want to be the one being penetrated for want of a better word so I’d be versatile
     
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    I guess I'll bump this...

    I consider myself a more submissive bottom, though I'm fairly willing to top with the right men :p 
     
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    There's a balancing act between 'what's good/appropriate for the relationship' and 'what's good/appropriate for you personally' that should be taking place in every relationship. Given that, things are always subject to change IMO. The roles that partners assume could be based on many factors outside of the bedroom and, as a result, would lead to a variety of different 'bed states' in which each person carries out their desired method of copulation. All in all, I think I could see myself negotiating a variety of roles.
     
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    I'm fairly independent but I like being a sub but I can go either way. As far as the top/bottom I lean a little bit towards the bottom side but I'm not a pillow princess and would do whatever my partner needs or wants within reason. There are some things I won't do...
     
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    And?????? Hahaha j/k
     
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    Mouth meets anus stuffs.
     
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    I personally like being top,but will be bottom also. Me I like a lot of foreplay first!
     

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