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Told my family docter

Discussion in 'Transgender' started by Spaceboi, Dec 7, 2017 at 1:29 AM.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Spaceboi
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    Spaceboi Space Prince William
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    Saw my family doctor today and I told her I was trans and wanting to transition. She kinda did a double take and told me she had other two patients who were FTM but was worried about me. She's been my doctor since I was four years old. And I guess in her mind it like never was a question.

    I went to the doctors wearing pink Mens jogging pants and this ridiculous pink fluffy winter coat that I love. And she like pointed looked at me and asked if I ever tried wearing guy clothes. Which I have and I found myself more comfortable in guy clothes but that doesn't mean I dont like girl clothes either.

    Ugh, I mean feminine clothes. she said that would I be a guy wearing a dress, and I said if I wanted yes. Then she said I probably wasn't trans then, and I got a little upset and told her A guy could wear a dress if he wants to and clothes dont have genders.

    She said she is mostly worried about my mental health. Because I have PTSD and severe social anxiety disorder, as well as reoccurring depression. She told me if Im afraid of getting looks now, I most certainly will while transitioning or wearing bright pink as a guy. I understood her point.

    I told her the difference would be Id be more comfortable in my skin. Maybe not with the stares or people but more comfortable to be myself. Because right now this body is just so wrong and uncomfortable.

    I dont think she believed me and said I shoudnt take hormones at this stage. That mentally she doesnt think I am sound enough.

    I told her I talked with my psychologist and shes trying to contact a therapist to do an evaluation on my mental health to go ahead with the procedures.

    Just feeling a little bummed out I guess.
     
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    ShauntSerelu Juliette, trans girl, sapiosexual, bi.
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    Acting like a gatekeeper. Just because you don't fit the stereotypes of man doesn't meet you aren't one. I wish you luck. All you have to do is not give in to the people who will doubt you
     
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    Thank you so much.

    It was a hard day to be truthful. Its like no one can ever believe the words I say, think them as sincere. I never exaggerate truths I am actually pretty blunt. I do have a poetic way of saying things though..Maybe she thought I was just being fanciful..

    But I have never been less anxious and less uncomfortable in my skin since I realized I COULD DO THIS. That I CAN transition.

    Ive felt more confident and less self-conscious. A sense of rightness settled over me.

    I like being feminine, even as a man when I transition I would like to look feminine. It has nothing to do with gender, just preference. I think if people looked at interests/clothes/Makeup/ separate to the genitals you have and genitals separate to your gender and again, Interests/clothes/Makeup, it would make more sense to them. Maybe they would understand even a little bit our position...

    Well thank you for the support. I need to relieve some stress and its nice to know others are out there reading what Im going through and offering support.
     
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    You can wear whatever you like regardless of your identity, so long as you are happy with probably looking different from other guys. If so, then rock that look.
    I would say it’s not for your doctor to decide whether you are in the right place mentally to take hormones. That’s for the specialist physiologist. Your doctor just needs to refer you.
     

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