The problem with my dad

First of all my dad is "only" my step-dad but my biological father never cared about me and my step-dad always did. He is in my life now for 10 1/2 years. (I just turned 11 when he came into my life). He always was the dad I always wanted to have. He did everything for me.

But since a few years it gets harder and harder to talk with him. Espacially about political stuff.
At my first concert I wanted a shirt as a memory but they didn´t sell shirts with their logo there. But Shirts with the text "Moin Liebe" which is german for "Hello Love". So I bought one of those. Bc I mean it´s also a beautiful message. When I wore it at home my dad said it is a "nazi shirt" and I should not were it. First I thought he was joking but when I wanted to eat with my family he said that he doesn´t want to eat with me if I wear that. I didn´t see why I should take it off and ate in my room. My mom told him that I wanted to wear it bc of the concert. The fight was kinda over and I never wear it again. That was 3 years ago. And I still don´t know what his problem was.
There are always some little phrases or things I don´t agree with. He even is one of the people who think that we - the LGBTQ+ community - doesn´t need Prides anymore. Bc "they already have everything". But he doesn´t mind that I go there every year (except this year bc stupid Covid).
That brings me to the next topic.
For him everything that has to do with the virus is only a positive thing for the gouverment. I always watch videos of people who say that covid doesn´t exist and laugh about them but at the same time I see my dad turning like those people too.
Acourding to him climate change is also just a mythos from the gouverment.
The latest thing that happened was one of the most problematic things for me. If you know Ellen - now Elliot - Page you probably heard about it. He outed himself as transgender. My parents and I have watched The Umbrella Academy together so I went and told them bc I felt like sharing. Bad idea. My mum didn´t understand anything and why "she" should be called he now. And dad only said. "Sad. She was a pretty good actress. But I guess they all go crazy at some point of their career." He knows that I am bisexual. But I don´t think he really believes that anymore.

I don´t even feel like talking to him anymore. It doesn´t matter what I tell him. He finds a reason why it´s stupid. When my parents start to talk about politics I go away or stop listening. When I ask my mum something and she says "I don´t know that. Ask your dad." (About politics or history) I decide to ask Google instead.

Sorry for this way to long text about my dad. But I had to write all of this down.
I just don´t know what to do. My mum is sick. I was scared to actually lose her already more than once. And if she dies one day, I don´t think dad and I will still get along. Not the way it´s going now.

 

Yes, I feel safe at home. I'm just mad and a bit annoyed. And sad

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I am glad you are safe and it hurts when I parents, if step parents do not accept us.

Also to have you mother not doing well has it's own pain.

Please take care of YOU and know that you are a wonderful person.

Please keep us updated - Jo

 

I will. Thank you

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I feel for you Fabi and send you comforting hugs.
The only people I know with the thoughts and ideas your father has are the teenage conspiracy believers my sons know (all late teens/twenty), and some people will never be more understanding than they already are. I did have to have a heated conversation after Elliot was reborn from Ellen (Umbrella Acadamy was one the shows the whole house watched together) and I think I got the correct responses.
Anyway stay strong, we are only a message away (and don't believe all the answers from google it can be sometimes worse than dad answers) and stay safe  

 

Thank you for your kind words!

 

You´re right. Thank you for those words <3