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Searching for the truth

Discussion in 'Questioning & General LGBT' started by NierHearts, Dec 7, 2019.  |  Print Topic

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    I keep asking the same questions and I'm tired of asking the same questions.

    Could these be "signs" that I'm a lesbian:

    • - Doing "Am I lesbian" quizzes
    • - Going on lesbian hashtags on social media
    • Examples of the hashtags I go on: #lesbianlove, #lesbianwedding, #lesbianpositivity, #lesbianpride, and etc....
    • - Don't want to have sex with men
    I'm so confused about my sexuality lately.
     
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    Jessica45 Bisexual mtf. Slightly insane
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    Sound like good signs to mr
     
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    When I was questioning I took a lot of sexuality quizzes and always came up with "bisexual" or "lesbian". Fun fact: I'm a happy pan :p 
     
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    I would say you are at least curious about being interested in women.
     
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    OK kind person - Close your eyes and let me come up to you gently pulling you into my arms and giving you a soft loving hug.

    You lean into me and relax as I feel ever beat of your heart and ever breath you take.

    I then move to whisper in your ear to tell you just how wonderful you are and I never want to leave you.

    You open your eyes and see ????

    You are what your heart and soul say you are and embrace that and grow.

    Wish you well and love - Jo
     
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    I still remember my first post here...back then I didn't know whether I was cis or not so my introduction thread was tentative at best. One of the first answers I got was "cis people don't spend that much time wondering if they're cis" and they were right.
    You seem to be spending quite a lot of time trying to find out if you're a lesbian...it might be that you spend that much time because you already know the answer :) 
     
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    Some people have a hard time acknowledging that they're gay because they've internalized some of the homophobia around them -- this can be true even when, intellectually, they're fine with it.

    Sexuality is about sex. Indulge yourself in some sexual fantasies (no porn allowed -- just use your imagination) and see what "works" for you. Tell yourself "it's just a fantasy" to keep any anxiety from getting in the way. If you're dealing with internalized homophobia, a few good same-sex fantasies can help you get past it.
     
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    Sounds like you are lesbian-curious, at least :) 

    Being a lesbian is about sexual attraction, which you feel physically.
    Take your time, you need it to discover yourself ! Sometimes, knowing yourself is more complex than it may look like. It is not about choosing a label, it looks like you know this ;) 
     
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    I think I've been lesbian-curious since I was a teenager, but I probably held the curiosity back until now.
     

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