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Questioning sexuality... help?

Discussion in 'Questioning & General LGBT' started by mayjailer, Oct 7, 2015.  |  Print Topic

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    So a little about me, I'm 15 and I've been 100% comfortable with being gay (im a guy) until I starting questioning it.
    It all started last year after loosing my virginity to a guy, I totally cut him off and stopped talking to him shortly after ... why I did this I'm not sure. Ever since then I feel as if my sexuality has been changing. It's very hard to describe how I feel so I'll try my best. It almost feels as if a sexuality switch just flicks in and off every now and then, sometimes it can take a day, a week or even months. what I mean by it changing is sometimes I feel as if I'm attracted to guys and totally disgusted by girls, vice versa. Other times I feel attracted to both and sometimes I feel no attraction towards anyone at all. This brings the huge question.. am I asexual? Now I'm very comfortable with any sexuality but my thoughts and feelings are constantly changing. I have tried dating both genders and every time I end up cutting them off because I get completely weirded out when sexually feels as if it's changed from the time I started talking to them. I have had thoughts that I am asexual but because of puberty and hormones my body/mind isn't sure what to make out of anything. So my questions are, Is this normal? Is there a completely different sexuality I may belong to? Is my sexuality "fluid"? Any response/advice will help me a lot! Also feel free to ask more questions I'm completely comfortable answering anything. Thank you for reading.
     
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    This is pretty normal, you're just finding your sexuality. I guess you could indentify yourself as bisexual? It could also be a matter of lust, rather than sexuality. I mean, crushes don't last forever and you could see someone as perfect one day and see all the little problems the next day.
     
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    How close were you with these people? Look into demisexual and yea maybe asexual. Good luck!
     
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    I knew them pretty well, I knew them for probably close to six or so months and liked them the whole way through... and it's not just the person I feel not attracted to it's the whole sex/gender. So when I would cut them off it wasn't necessarily because I didn't like them anymore it was more because I was feeling attracted to their gender in general.
     

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