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Discussion in 'Questioning & General LGBT' started by HappyToBIMe123, Sep 11, 2019 at 5:14 PM.  |  Print Topic

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    HappyToBIMe123 Grand King of The Apple Juices.
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    So I have been thinking about my past recently, and I have a genuine question. Please be honest. Is it true you can’t trust people with certain information? Like I have this friend who is lgbt and I just want to talk to them about how I feel but I only talk to them via instagram, and Despite that even if I was able to see them again in person could I trust someone with such things? It’s really frustrating because I just want to vent to someone in real life about this stuff but I do not know what to do, so please let me know what you think. Thanks again. ☺️
     
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    Yes, but you never know until you try.
     
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    Eventually, you need to talk to somebody.

    I understand that you're not ready to come out publicly, but that leaves you feeling impossibly isolated. If you can't see any good reason your lgbt friend will out you to anybody who matters, it's worth taking the chance -- especially if he's the only one you might be able to trust. You need to find people ready to accept you for whom you are. Do that, and you'll become more accepting of yourself -- something I think you may not have accomplished yet.
     
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    If they're your friends, you know the ones you can trust or not. But if they trust you to listen when they vent, you can do the same (that what friends are for). It's important to talk (and vent ^^) with someone

    And don't worry, coming out is easier each time you do it
    Good luck !
     
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    Thank you
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    Thank you
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    I suppose that is true, but should I test the waters? Also thank you.
     
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    This is the game I like to play when my I need to make a decision that sets my anxiety into overdrive.

    First I ask myself: What is the best possible response if I do this?

    Then I ask myself: What is the worst possible response?

    If I end up getting the worst possible response, what are consequences? Will I be safe after? How will I recover?

    I try to remind myself that reality will probably land somewhere in the middle. Then I make a self-care plan just in case the worst thing happens.

    Unless there is a chance for physical harm I usually go for it. It took a long time before I stopped letting fear and anxiety rule my decisions. Creating the life I want for myself requires taking risks. Sometimes I embarrass myself, but even that is a growth experience.

    "It's no better to be safe than sorry."
    -- Ah-ha, "Take on Me"
     
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    If one LGBT+ person can't admit their sexuality to another LGBT+ person, well we might as well all just give up. Stop tying yourself in knots, man. Tell your friend.
     
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    Thank you, and that was clever.
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    Ok! I will! Thank you!
     

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