Bisexual Newbie bi in long term hetero relationship

I’m a 23 year old girl and I’m in a long term 3 years relationship with a guy, but I recently came out to him as bisexual. He was okay about it but was still quite jealous and asked if I wanted to still be with him because he was not open to the idea of me being with anyone else male/female.

I have never been with a woman before and since I came out I can’t stop thinking about being with a woman.

I love my partner and see myself spending my life with him but I can’t imagine not exploring this side of me and know it will always hang over me in our relationship. Anyone been in this situation before? Really need some advice

 

Believe me, you are NOT alone! I have been married 25 years to a woman. I love her dearly, but I also crave and have craved sex with another guy.

I have not come out to her mainly because I think it would hurt her deeply, especially after 25 years. We have a son, that I have come out to. I came out to him to help him with his struggles about his sexuality. He is only a couple of years younger than you are.

Advice is just that, it's advice, so listen, but use your heart and mind to figure what is best for you. I think for the long haul, love is imperative, as is a mutual respect and friendship.

That being said, that itch that cannot be scratched is tough and it is not anything new, regardless of your orientation. There is always going to be temptation, whether you are straight, gay, bi, or add your own orientation or lack thereof here. You choose a partner and want to be with them the rest of your life, you need to figure out what if any itches can be scratched without destroying the one you love or yourself.

That being said, I will probably be sharing more of my issues of being married in a sexless relationship because of disability of a spouse physically and emotionally in a later Post.

Know this though, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Especially when it comes to being bisexual. Peace be with you.