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    For people thats having trouble with their minds. To achieve your whatever goals and manifest the kinda life you desire around you. If you want to change things outside, You have to do it within first, Because you perceive the universe through your mind. This Thread will help you to Organize Your Mind the Exact way you want. Please post only SELF Related things. This is purely about YOU and YOU ONLY!

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    For every action, There is an equal and opposite reaction. For every thought, An equal and opposite. Its cause and effect. If you want the best results, organize your mind in such a way its in harmony with the universe. Otherwise cause and effect can give you a lot of trouble. "Whatever you try to create for another will always boomerang back to you. That includes both loving, helpful, or healing actions and negative, destructive ones. This means, of course, that the more you use creative visualization to love and serve others’ as well as your own highest ends, the more love, happiness, and success will just naturally find their way to you.Just to make sure that you are aware of this, it’s a good idea to add the following phrase to any creative visualization process you do: This, or something better, now manifests for me in totally satisfying and harmonious ways, for the highest good of all concerned."
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    How to train your emotions by Mel Robbins

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    "It’s important to relax deeply when you are first learning to use creative visualization. When your body and mind are deeply relaxed, your brain wave pattern actually changes and becomes slower. This deeper, slower level is commonly called the alpha level (while your usual busy waking consciousness is called the beta level), and much research is currently being done on its effects. The alpha level has been found to be a very healthful state of consciousness, because of its relaxing effect on mind and body. And, interestingly enough, it has been found to be far more effective than the more active beta level in creating real changes in the so-called objective world, through the use of visualization. What this means for our practical purposes is that if you learn to relax deeply and do creative visualization, you may be able to make far more effective changes in your life than you would by thinking, worrying, planning And trying to manipulate things and people.If you have any particular way that you are accustomed to relaxing deeply or entering a quiet, meditative state, by all means use that method. One way is breathing slowly and deeply, relaxing each muscle in your body in turn, and counting down from ten to one slowly. If you have any trouble physically relaxing, you might want to seek instruction in yoga, meditation, or stress reduction, which will be helpful in this regard. Usually, though, a little practice in relaxation makes perfect. Of course, a side benefit of all of this is that you will find deep relaxation healthful and beneficial mentally, emotionally, and physically.It is especially good to do creative visualization at night just before sleeping, or in the morning just after awakening, because at those times the mind and body are already deeply relaxed and receptive. You might like to do it while lying in bed, but if you tend to fall asleep, it’s best to sit up on the edge of the bed or in a chair in a comfortable position, with your spine straight and balanced. Having your spine straight helps the energy flow and makes it easier to get a deep alpha wave pattern. If it’s possible for you, a short period of meditation and creative visualization done at midday will relax and renew you, and cause your day to flow more smoothly."

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    HOW TO DEAL WITH ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION ( Its going to take a while to read, but its better than staying depressed and anxious for the rest of your life)

    - Eckhart Tolle

    What if overcoming anxiety and depression is easier than we make it out to be? As someone who has regularly faced anxiety and depression over many years, I understand how it can feel impossible to get out of those downward, negative spirals. And they sometimes last weeks, months, or more.

    Dealing with anxiety and depression is no trivial matter, especially episodes that last for extended periods of time. In my quest to overcome anxiety and depression, I’ve explored different ways to get out of it – and am starting to challenge my old beliefs about both.

    In this article we’re going to look at how Eckhart Tolle recommends that people deal with anxiety and depression. It starts with an awareness of our thoughts, acceptance of the situation we’re in, and practicing presence with our current experience. The process involves the ego, our pain-body, networks in our brain, and a practiced presence of “the now.”

    The beginning of anxiety and depression
    Before we get into Eckhart Tolle’s process for dealing with anxiety and depression, we need to look at the root: the ego and the pain-body. Both are components of living as a human being that are inescapable but we can learn to manage them.

    Anxiety and depression are both complex matters that should be looked at through a medical and a spiritual lens together, not one or the other exclusively.

    Where does anxiety come from?
    Dillon Browne, Ph.D suggests that anxiety disorders occur “when a person regularly feels disproportionate levels of distress, worry, or fear over an emotional trigger.”

    Causes of anxiety include a combination of environmental factors, genetics, medical factors, brain chemistry, and use of/withdrawal from illicit substances. Anxious feelings can come from internal or external sources.

    What causes depression?
    The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) defines depression as a “common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that effect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working.”

    Depression can be caused by abuse, medications, conflict, death, loss, genetics, major events, personal problems, serious illness, substance abuse, and more.

    Are you at risk right now?
    If you are dealing with anxiety or depression and feel you may be at risk for self-harm or need support, contact a medical professional even as you explore Eckhart Tolle’s recommendations for dealing with anxiety and depression.

    Eckhart Tolle on anxiety and depression

    The author and spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle has a very useful way of understanding what anxiety is and how to deal with it when it arises.

    He refers to the concept of the “painbody”, which is an old emotional pain living inside of you. It may have accumulated from past traumatic experiences and sticks around because these painful experiences were not fully faced and accepted the moment they arose.

    By understanding the painbody and how to accept your experience in the present moment, you’ll be much better able to deal with anxiety and live a much better life.

    The painbody gets amplified by the ego

    According to Tolle, the painbody lives in human beings and comes from the ego:

    “When the ego is amplified by the emotion of the painbody, the ego has enormous strength still – particularly at those times. It requires very great presence so that you can be there as the space also for your painbody, when it arises.”

    This is everyone’s job in this life. We need to be there and recognize our painbody when it shifts from dormant to active. At that moment, when it takes over your mind, the internal dialogue we have – which is dysfunctional at the best of times – now becomes the voice of the painbody talking to us internally.

    Everything it tells us is deeply influenced by the old, painful emotion of the painbody. Every interpretation, everything it says, every judgement about your life and what’s happening, will be totally distorted by the old emotional pain.

    If you are alone, the painbody will feed on every negative thought that arises and get more energy. You end up thinking about things for hours, depleting your energy.

    Eckhart Tolle explains how we experience emotions like anxiety, stress or anger:

    “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.”

    How to catch your painbody

    How can we be present and catch our painbody at an early stage, so we don’t get drawn into it depleting our energy?

    The key is to understand that little situations trigger enormous reactions, and when that happens be present with yourself.

    You need to create space inside yourself for the painbody, and then remove yourself from that space. Be present with yourself, and look at the situation from a detached place.

    As Tolle says:

    “If you are present, the painbody cannot feed anymore on your thoughts, or on other people’s reactions. You can simply observe it, and be the witness, be the space for it. Then gradually, its energy will decrease.”

    Tolle says the first step to enlightenment is to be an “observer” of the mind:

    “The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not “the thinker.” The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize that all the things that truly matter – beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace – arise from beyond the mind. You begin to awaken.”

    Let’s now dive deeper into Eckhart Tolle’s insights on the ego and pain body for dealing with depression and anxiety.

    What is the ego?

    In the context of this article, “ego” is the false or limited perception of yourself. The “ego” is a different side of “you” that doesn’t live on the same wavelength of consciousness as your “higher self.”

    The ego serves the purpose of helping us stay alive, but can only use the information it has experienced from the past or witnessed in others. Although this makes the ego sound negative, the ego is important for survival and is responsible for getting us to where we are today.

    The ego loves to have an identity.

    When you identify yourself with a title or a feeling (e.g., using “I” language), you are most likely speaking from an egoic place. Do you identify yourself in one of the following ways?

    I am a business owner
    I am diseased (or) I am healthy
    I am strong (or) I am weak
    I am wealthy (or) I am poor
    I am a teacher
    I am a father/mother
    Take note of the “I am” language in the above examples. What might your “I am” statements be for you?

    Priorities of the ego
    Your ego is unaware of the true source of who you really are within. The ego puts more value into the following:

    What we own
    That status we have
    Currency we’ve gathered
    Knowledge we’ve obtained
    How we look
    How healthy we are
    Our nationality
    Our “status”
    How we are perceived
    The ego needs to be “fed” information, observations, and experiences that make it feel “safe.” If it does not receive these, then it starts to feel as though it’s “dying” and triggers more fearful thoughts and behaviors.

    We often go through cycles of identifying as something, protecting the identity, and getting more evidence that we are that identity so that the ego feels like it is “alive.”

    How the ego affects our tendency to be anxious or depressed

    From this viewpoint and understanding of the ego, it’s easy to see how you can become anxious or depressed when:

    You don’t meet certain standards (created by you or someone else)
    You get sick or injured and your “beauty” is marred
    You become chronically ill and can’t do the same hobbies or work
    You lose passion for a career you’ve spent decades on
    You miss the “once in a lifetime” opportunity
    You lose a job and go bankrupt
    What happens when you lose your egoic identity
    When you (the egoic part of yourself) can no longer identify as something, the fearful egoic part of you will go into fight-or-flight trying to protect what you still have while simultaneously reaching for the next thing to identify with. To the ego, when these things happen it can literally feel like you’re dying.

    To the ego, it doesn’t know what it’s like to live without those identities. If you have always identified as one thing and that one thing is ripped out from beneath you without any idea on what you’ll do about it … then it’s only natural to feel anxious and depressed.

    The longer you sit in that anxiousness and depression, the more acclimated your ego gets to that way of thinking and behaving. Now all of the sudden, the ego has a new identity:

    “I am anxious and depressed.”

    So what does the ego do? It holds on for dear life to this new identity.

    The “pain-body” is the source of your anxiety and depression habits
    Inside of each of us is a “pain-body” that is responsible for many of our negative feelings and circumstances, including the thoughts we have about ourselves, our interactions with others, and our beliefs about the world or life.

    The pain-body lies dormant inside each person, waiting to come to life. The pain-body can be triggered into an active state from minor and significant situations, causing havoc in our minds and in our interactions with others – often without realization.

    The pain-body is formed when you have a significant negative experience and did not fully deal with it when it showed up. Those experiences leave a residue of negative pain and energy in the body. The more experiences you have (or the more severe they are), the stronger the pain-body becomes.

    For most people, this pain-body can be dormant (inactive) 90% of the time, springing to life in specific situations. Someone who is deeply unhappy or unsatisfied with their life may have a pain-body that is active 90% of the time.

    Let’s take a pause right now and consider the anxiety or depression we’re facing, what our beliefs are about ourselves and the world, and how we interact with others. Is it positive? Is it neutral? Is it negative?

    How often is your pain-body active versus dormant?
    If you have a strong pain-body, chances are the language and beliefs you have about yourself are not that positive. You may have spurts of positivity and empowerment within your internal dialogue and behavior, but the average or majority may be negative.

    When the pain-body is active, it can manipulate your thoughts into thinking that:

    People are out to get you or going to take advantage of you
    You are “below” other people
    You will never be able to “overcome” these anxious and depressive feelings
    An active pain-body can trigger behaviors that cause you to:

    Snap harshly at other people (even if they did something minor)
    Feel overwhelmed and unable to move forward or take action at all
    Unintentionally sabotage your situation even further
    Take a moment to learn what your own signs, behaviors, or thoughts are for your pain-body. What do you think caused your pain-body to develop in your past?

    The impacts of the pain-body

    The pain-body normally lies dormant (inactive) in the body until it is triggered. The worst part is that we often do not realize when the pain-body has switched to an active state. When the pain-body is active it takes over the mind by creating internal dialogue that we start to identify as.

    The pain-body doesn’t have a clear picture of the current situation, using only painful experiences from the past. Its viewpoint can be heavily distorted and when you’re alone with the pain-body it can greatly deplete your energy, leaving you weak and susceptible to do, say, or think something negative.

    The longer your pain-body exists, the harder it is to realize when it’s active.

    Eckhart Tolle suggests that “When the ego is amplified by the emotion of the pain-body, the ego has enormous strength still – particularly at those times. It requires very great presence so that you can be there as the space also for your pain-body, when it arises.”

    In order to deal with the pain-body and the ego, Eckhart Tolle says that we have to experience the death of our ego. This can be achieved by doing the following three things.

    1. Become aware of the pain-body

    To “die before we die,” as Eckhart Tolle puts it, and weaken anxiety and depression, we need to raise our awareness. Like any other muscle and skill it will take time to develop. Give yourself grace as you practice.

    Anytime the pain-body becomes active, it’s an opportunity to practice becoming aware of it.

    Signs that the pain-body has become active (from its dormant state)

    You make assumptions about a person or situation without any evidence
    You react aggressively towards someone (even in a small situation)
    The situation feels overwhelming and you don’t believe you can overcome it
    You crave for other people’s attention
    You think “your way” is the only way and you don’t give any thought to others’ input
    When talking to other people, you feel very “tense” (e.g., in the jaw)
    When confronted by someone or a situation, you feel “tunnel visioned” and hyper-focused on them or the situation (and can’t “see” what’s going on around you)
    You have trouble looking people in the eyes when talking to them
    Your beliefs are negative or disempowering by default
    You go out of your way to “get back” at someone
    You tend to “yell” at other people instead of trying to understand
    Any feelings of unhappiness can be a sign that the pain-body is becoming active. In an excerpt from The Power of Now (by Echart Tolle), the pain-body can take multiple forms of depression, rage, anger, a somber mood, inclination to hurt someone or something, irritation, impatience, a need for drama in your relationship(s), and more.

    What are your pain-body behaviors and triggers?

    Each person has their own unique pain-body related triggers and behaviors. Think about what your “active pain-body behaviors” are.

    Is it internal dialogue that is self-defeating?
    Do you snap at people?
    Do you throw in the towel before you even start?
    With new understanding of your personal triggers and behaviors, practice becoming aware of when the pain-body becomes active. Even if it was hours ago, acknowledge it. This is the process of training your brain to look for the behavioral and thought patterns associated to the pain-body.

    Your awareness skills improve the more you practice
    As you develop better awareness skills, you’ll be able to catch yourself and the pain-body’s internal dialogue sooner as it’s triggered. Eventually you will have the awareness to catch the pain-body as it becomes active and stop or change behavior before you commit to old habitual behavior.

    Eckhart Tolle says that “everybody’s job in life is to be there and recognize our pain-body when it goes from dormant to active and takes over the mind.”

    We should, as he says, become an “observer of the mind.”

    Eckhart Tolle continues:

    “The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not “the thinker.” The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize that all the things that truly matter – beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace – arise from beyond the mind. You begin to awaken.”

    Here are a few tips to increase awareness of your pain-body:

    Ask yourself, right now, is my pain-body active or dormant? Increasing your awareness starts right now in this moment.
    Continue to ask yourself if your pain-body is active or dormant anytime you think of it.
    Create an “awareness trigger” that will remind you to ask if your pain-body is active or dormant. You can use a colored pen/sharpie to put a “dot” on your wrist, write a letter (such as “P” for pain-body), or wear a loose rubber-band on the wrist to help create “reminders.” Anytime you see the “awareness trigger,” think about the pain-body and what state it’s in.
    Periodically look back at your interactions and behaviors throughout the day to see if you had talked, thought, or behaved from an active pain-body.
    Ask someone to check-in with you periodically about your day and if the pain-body was active.
    Practicing awareness will shorten the gap between when the pain-body is active and when you notice it, which is crucial for making change.

    2. Fully surrender to your situation

    For anxiety and depression sufferers, Eckhart Tolle recommends that you surrender to your situation and current state in life. This is why awareness is the first step, so that we can have better clarity of what our situation is. As you practice becoming aware of the pain-body, it increases your ability to be aware of other areas in your life.

    Eckhart Tolle goes on to say that the majority of problems we face are a result of how the mind interprets circumstances and NOT because of the circumstance itself. People create a story in their mind about the situation without realizing it. (Hence the need for awareness.)

    Tolle jests that “we call people crazy who talk out loud to themselves, but we do it to ourselves in our own head” every day. There is a voice (conditioned thought) in our mind that doesn’t stop talking – and is almost always negative, guilt-tripping, doubtful, and so on.

    Surrendering is the next step

    Eckhart Tolle says that we must surrender to our current situation – including both the small daily life situations as well as the big life situations (which includes our current situation with anxiety and depression).

    He shares an example of standing in line at a market. Usually if the line is long and not moving quickly, people get anxious and impatient. We attach a negative story to the situation.

    To start “surrendering” and accepting the situation, Eckhart Tolle recommends asking, “how would I experience this moment if I did not add these [negative, impatient, anxious] thoughts to it? The negative thoughts that say it’s awful? How would I experience this moment [without those thoughts]?”

    By taking the moment “as it is,” without any negative thoughts or added “story” to it, you simply experience it as it is. There’s none of the anxiety or negative, upset feelings because you have let go of the story that interprets this event in negative terms.

    Going deeper with surrender

    To surrender to any situation, you have to create space inside of yourself for the pain-body to exist, but then remove yourself from that space. While being present with yourself and the pain-body, you must be able to look at your situation from a detached place.

    This happens on both a small and large scale.

    Apply surrender or acceptance to your daily situations (e.g., standing in line at the market, on the phone with someone, generally feeling ‘down’) as well as life situations (financial, career, relationships, physical health, state of depression/anxiety, etc.).

    Surrendering to your “life burden”

    Eckhart Tolle emphasises surrendering to or accepting your current “burden” in life. Each of us has some kind of obstacle, situation, or experience that seems very challenging to that individual. Most people stress about the situation, imagining how things could have been different, and otherwise putting their attention on the way things “could” or “should” have been, or how they will be in the future.

    In other words, we create expectations about how life should be for us.

    Eckhart Tolle believes that we are given our “situation” for one reason or another and that it’s our life mission to fully surrender to that burden without expectation of it being a certain way.

    Fully surrendering allows the egoic part of the mind to die, allowing you to be truly present with yourself, your soul, your body, and this moment.

    This is what Eckhart Tolle means when he says to “die before you die.” Die an egoic death (surrender to your present reality) before you die physically. It frees you up to reveal who you really are and find the “peace that passes all understanding.”

    Anxiety and depression begins to weaken as you go through this process of surrender and acceptance.

    3. Become fully present with this current moment

    The final step for dealing with anxiety and depression that Eckhart Tolle recommends is to be fully present with this moment, as it’s happening right now. Those that suffer from anxiety and depression may find this easier said than done – but let’s challenge that belief. It’s just a skill that requires persistence to develop.

    When fully present in all ways, the pain-body can’t feed on thoughts or others’ reactions. When in a state of observation and presence, you create space for the pain-body and emotions connected to your anxiety and depression, resulting in the decrease in energy or power that it has over you.

    Here are some tips that Eckhart Tolle recommends for becoming more present:

    Avoid giving yourself too much input in your mind alone
    When in conversation with others, spend 80% of the time listening and 20% of the time speaking
    While listening, pay attention to your inner body – how do you physically feel, right now?
    Try to “feel” the energy in your hands and feet – especially as you are listening to someone else talk
    Continue to pay attention to the energy or “aliveness” in your body
    The nervous system begins to detach itself from “thinking of the past or future” when you are focused on the current moment or physical sensations. A focus on your thoughts can detach you from the present experience.

    Becoming more present – today

    When putting Eckhart Tolle’s process into practice, I have found that my tendency to “worry about the past” and “be anxious about the future” was drastically reduced or eliminated entirely. It’s an ongoing practice. Different methods will work for different people – experiment with different strategies to see what is best to get you focusing on the present experience. Try a few of these:

    Take a cold shower – this one will change your state immediately (it will be impossible to think of anything but that specific moment, especially if it’s your first time)
    Meditation breathing exercises – this puts your attention on the sensory experience of breath
    Walk barefoot outside – practice paying attention to how the grass, dirt, or concrete feels underneath your feet
    Tap your skin, squeeze your wrist, or any other physical touch that you don’t normally do
    Randomly shout out loud – especially if you’re not the type to be loud
    Pay attention to how the water feels when washing your hands or taking a shower
    Consciously notice how various textures feel under your fingers (clothes, furniture, food, etc.)

    Networks of the brain

    In this 2007 study that defines the two networks of the brain that define how reference our experiences, it helps explain how we can be more present.

    Lachlan Brown has a great video recap of how this process works. Here’s the summary:

    The first network is known as the “default network,” or narrative focus.

    When this network is active, you are planning, daydreaming, ruminating, thinking. Or for many of us dealing with anxiety and depression: we are overthinking, overanalyzing and focusing on either the past (“I should/shouldn’t have done that!”) or the future (“I have to do this later”). We are not focusing on what’s happening right now, right in front of us.

    The second network is known as the “direct experience network,” or experiential focus.

    This network is responsible for interpreting experience through sensory information coming through our nervous system (such as touch and vision).

    Which network are you operating from on average?
    If you are thinking about what you have to get done later today: you’re in the first network (default network, or narrative focus). If you are conscious of a physical sensations (e.g., that cold shower): you’re in the second network (direct experience network, or experiential focus).

    Those that suffer from anxiety and depression likely spend a significant amount of time in the first network of their brain due to the amount of time they spend overthinking and overanalyzing situations.

    Using the two networks to your advantage

    These two networks are inversely correlated, meaning that the more present you are in one network, the less you are in the opposite. For example, if you’re washing dishes but your thoughts are on a meeting coming up tomorrow, you may be less likely to notice the cut on your finger because your “direct experience” network (the second network) is less active.

    Inversely, if you intentionally put your focus on incoming sensory data, such as the feeling of the water on your hands while you wash, it reduces activation of the narrative circuitry in your brain (in first network).

    This means that you can directly influence how present you are by putting your attention on what you notice through the senses (touch, sight, smell, etc.). When you are more present through this second network (direct experience), it reduces the activity in your brain that is responsible for overthinking and stress.

    In short: you can reduce states of anxiety and depression by being more aware of the sensations of your current experience.

    Here’s what Eckhart Tolle says:

    “Focus attention on the feeling inside you. Know that it is the pain-body. Accept that it is there. Don’t think about it – don’t let the feeling turn into thinking. Don’t judge or analyze. Don’t make an identity for yourself out of it. Stay present, and continue to be the observer of what is happening inside you. Become aware not only of the emotional pain but also of “the one who observes,” the silent watcher. This is the power of the Now, the power of your own conscious presence. Then see what happens.”

    This is why meditative breathing exercises can work when you’re overthinking, because you are putting your focus on the sensory experience of your breath or heartbeat.

    Psychological fear encompasses your negative emotions with the pain-body
    There are many “negative emotions” that are associated with anxiety and depression, including but are not limited to fear, worry, stress, guilt, regret, resentment, sadness, bitterness, any form of nonforgiveness, tension, unease, and more.

    Almost all of these can be labeled under a single category of psychological fear.

    As Eckhart Tolle explains in this LiveReal article as an excerpt from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle:

    “The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger. It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now. You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap.”

    Psychological fear (and all of the other negativity-based emotions like stress, anxiety, depression, etc.) are a result of thinking too much about the past or future and not enough awareness of the current moment.

    Reducing negative emotions with presence

    You can reign in negative emotions by putting awareness on what is happening right now. In other words: becoming aware, accepting the situation, and being present.

    Eckhart Tolle also says:

    “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. … all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and … all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.”

    When you are fully present you will experience more positive emotions
    By practicing awareness, acceptance, and presence, you invite in more empowering and positive emotional states, including love, joy, beauty, creativity, inner peace, and more.

    When operating from our “direct experience network,” we are more in tune with our bodies, feelings, and the sensory information we’re taking in from our current experience. We’re able to “relax” and learn that what is happening right now is what truly matters.

    Those positive emotional states arise from being present with this moment, NOT in “thinking” from the mind. We awaken to this moment of now – and that’s where all these positive emotions live.

    Continue developing your ability to be present with right now
    Dealing with anxiety and depression is a complex matter and should not be taken lightly. Use all the tools and resources available to you in order to work through your mental, physical, and spiritual challenges.

    In summary, Eckhart Tolle’s recommendation for dealing with anxiety and depression are as follows:

    Having awareness of your situation and pain-body
    Surrendering to your burden and/or accepting your situation as it is, no expectations or complaints
    Being present with what is happening right now – not in “thinking” about the past or future
    If this process feels overwhelming, you can start by intentionally focusing on what you can FEEL through your senses, right now, without a narrative attached to it.

    Do you feel the fabric on your arms?
    The warm or cold glass in your hand?
    The air passing against your nostril?
    Let that be the start of being more present with THIS moment. From this state you can work your way into raising awareness, surrendering, and maintaining presence of this moment.

    I just copy pasted the whole article from here
    Source- https://ideapod.com/eckhart-tolle-reveals-best-strategy-deal-anxiety-depression/
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  6. AudryLeigh

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    Not far from the old "Be here now" philosophy from the '70s -- Baba Ram Das.

    Audry Leigh
  7. josu

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  8. JingleBells

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    With no hope of surviving a terminal disease, Mira's only way of finding her life was to give up all of her life lines and look in the Mirror

    A few months back, I was invited to a seminar on "Self Healing". Now - I don't often go to seminars any more - and I didn't recognize the name of the presenter Mira, but, the person who invited me was most insistent.

    Mira was a vibrant woman with a glowing personality and skin to match. Quietly, I sat in the back of the hall and listened as she shared her story and the method she had been taught that had saved her life.

    Mira's Story
    Mira told how she had been diagnosed with cancer to now, 80% of her body - including her brain. Her options were not good. With everything the Medical Profession had to offer, she was told (on her 35th birthday) that her use by date was nearly up and she had 3 months to live.

    Mira, in her desperate search had tried every possible release. She prayed regularly, went to Churches and Healers in the hope of some relief. One day, she was given the phone number of a man who may have been able to help her - so she was told.

    He answered the call and came to visit her. She was, by that time, almost housebound and suicidal. Mira couldn't remember the name of this man but what she remembered vividly was that he was the first person who was honest with her - brutally honest.

    "There is absolutely nothing I can do for you" he said, "But, if you are willing to do something for yourself, it just might work - but, there are no promises.

    "For a lot of people, there finally comes a time when nothing matters any more - when there is nothing to lose and when there is nothing to gain.

    So Mira - in order to fill in some of her sleepless hours, decided to follow a very simple practice - after all, she had nothing to lose. She asked the man about all of the other stuff that surrounded her - the Bible, "A Course in Miracles", the incense, the CD's and tapes. She was a little surprised by the reply.

    "If you enjoy the music and the incense, use them - but for no other reason. If you enjoy reading the books, read them. But if you are looking for answers or healing or miracles from any of these things, you would probably get at greater benefit from putting them in the fire and burning them"

    Then Mira went on to describe what she had been shown. She described how she was taught to find the center of her being by placing her hands together as she had been taught to, as a child, when praying. But, this time it was different. She explained how this practice originated - that by pushing both hands together and following the tension up the arms, across the shoulders and into the center of her chest, she could find a line down through the center of her being where there was no tension.

    Then there was the breathing process - she had to focus on the sound of her breath and imagine it coming in through the soles of her feet and out through the top of her head. Then on the next breath, it had to come in through the top of her head and out through the soles of her feet. Every thought, every feeling and every emotion was breathed out on this breath. For Mira, that was the easy part.

    The more difficult part of her assignment was to stand naked in front of a full length mirror, look her reflection directly in the eyes and say to it "I accept my self, in this moment, just the way I am" whilst she was doing the exercise.

    Mira went on to describe how this simple practice became a ritual for her - first thing in the morning - last thing at night. After a week, the Bible and ACIM went into the fire. After two weeks, the scans of her cancers started to show that the tumors were shrinking. She was able to drive herself to the hospital on her "use by date", 3 months after she started a practice with nothing to lose and nothing to gain. There was no sign of any of the tumors anywhere in her body.

    The doctors started to have their prescribed "fit" - and all she did was smile.

    As Mira described how she still followed this practice every day, ten years later, she spotted me, hiding out in a corner of the room and burst into tears. Giving nothing to anyone in the room, she simply said, through her tears "I want to thank a man who came to me in the night, promised me nothing and showed me how to live. In giving up what I clung onto as my life line, I found my life".

    At that point, I gently wiped the tears that were streaming down my face too. I had remembered who Mira was when she talked about the books but, I had never seen her or talked to her since. The friend who had invited me to the meeting asked me if I knew something. I said nothing.

    At 45 years of age, still in complete remission, 10 years after she was supposed to be dead, Mira had nothing to live for, nothing to die for .. and was full of Life.

    Quietly, my friend and I left the room as anonymously as I had arrived.

    I still advocate this simple method. I still use the same words .. In order to find your Life, you have to give up all attachments to your Lifelines.


    Life Lines - a Personal Story of Self Healing
  9. JingleBells

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    Over time, a number of people have asked "How do I get the mind out of the way" when I'm trying to do something to heal myself.
    Some Background to the Mirror Exercise
    There are several parts to "The Mirror" exercise. There are a number of activities which you are required to concentrate on - all at the same time. Now, to the Cartesian, Left, Thinking, Logical Brain, this is impossible, because it is only capable of processing one set of instructions at the one time.

    Yet, here I am asking you to keep your balance in a standing still position (with your back straight), focus your eyes on a single point, breathe in a particular way whilst you are listening to the way you breathe, hold your hands together so that you feel nothing and wait until you drop into a place where nothing exists - all of the time, facing the nakedness of your birth and trying to stay awake for 10 minutes or so.

    So - one step at a time. There are four basic areas of the brain that need to work together for one to drop into that space beyond the personality. In this exercise, every part of your brain is going to become occupied on one single practice - if it doesn't, you'll more than likely fall in a blubbering heap on the floor.

    Now - have a close look at the exercise again - go over the instructions in your minds eye and see if you can identify all of the processes that are going to go on in your head whilst you try to "get this right".

    In actual fact, eventually your awareness will drop out of your head all together and when that happens, the whole exercise will do you.

    Now - that space of no-thing can be, for some, a real scary space - especially when the Cartesian Controller of your Sovereign Personality Ego suddenly gets confronted with the fact that it is no longer controlling either your breath or your heartbeat.

    But - on to other things ..

    Whilst the focus of your Vision is fixed on one point, (and this is the "rods" in your eyes doing this), the other part of your eyes (the cones) start their "thing" and all of a sudden you might become aware of colours, shapes, faces etc in your "aura" - in other words, you are starting to "see" all of the things hanging around in your energy field.

    Sovereign ego isn't going to like that and so it'll want to have a good look and the moment it does, those "things" will disappear. Funny thing is, when the image in the Mirror disappears, Mind is going to get an even bigger "work over" .. but wait until the mirror disappears too ....

    Mind you, at the same time as all of this is going on, you are trying to keep on breathing between the top of your head and the soles of your feet - and the only way for that to happen is if your body gets itself into alignment and the various blocks get out of the way. Mind won't like that either, because as these blocks start to move, all sorts of thoughts and impressions will start to move through you.

    However, as Mind is otherwise occupied (mostly being terrified of losing control), all of these "blocks" are moving through very quickly .. probably coming to awareness every 10 milliseconds or so.

    Now - it takes 750 milliseconds to re-imprint them and 90 seconds to totally clear the neural pathway that created the block in the first place. Mind has forgotten about that because it is too busy trying to figure out what is going on in the mirror, how to stand up, how to breathe, whilst at the same time it is trying to find this "centre" line between left and right.

    Oh .. by the way, all of the time it is trying to do all of those things at once, it is also trying to speak out loud "I accept myself in this moment just the way I am" without it coming out sounding like you've had 5 too many glasses of wine.

    When your mind becomes your friend, the whole exercise will just happen, by itself, uniquely for you. If you try to do the exercise, it will do you and you may find out where the floor is the hard way - after you wake up.

    Rest assured .. even if you only get one part of it right at first, then just that part happening on its own will already be conspiring to give the Sovereign Mind, along with all of its associated beliefs, a real good shake-up.

    ..... and, no, you will never know if you've "got it right" so don't try. Just follow the instructions as they were written .. and enjoy your own healing.

    If things happen that you don't quite understand or something is worrying you about how your mind or body is responding/reacting, then write to the list - that's what its there for.

    The Mirror Exercise: Simple Instructions
    1. This exercise will achieve the maximum benefit if repeated at the same time every day for a period of about 10 to 15 minutes. The most powerful times are at sunrise and sunset.

      The second most beneficial times are first thing on getting up in the morning and last thing before going to bed at night. If these times are impossible, then you can set aside two other times for you when you will not be disturbed.
    1. You will require a full length mirror with a space in front of it so that you can stand fully naked in front of the mirror and be able to see the whole of your body.

      The room should be of a comfortable temperature so that you are neither too hot nor too cold.

      In standing in front of the mirror, place your feet "shoulder width" apart .. so that, if you were to draw a line straight down to the floor from the outside edge of your shoulders this line will touch the outside of your foot. Allow your weight to be evenly distributed on each foot.
    1. Spend a few moments taking in the whole of the reflection of you, and then focus your attention on a point on your forehead, exactly between your eyes and about 2 cm or 1 in above the line of your eyes.
    1. During the whole of this exercise, the mantra which you should repeat to yourself (out aloud so that your body hears your voice) is
      "I accept myself, in this moment, just the way I am"

      I have written this "mantra" in English, but you will gain a greater benefit if you translate it into your "native" language - and if your mother spoke another language or dialect when you were in her womb, the use of this translation will also be beneficial.
    1. During the whole of the exercise, place your hands, palms pushed together in front of you. As you initially do this, feel the pressure on your palms, up through your arms, across your shoulders, back and chest. This is the pressure between left and right, male and female, past and future.

      Somewhere in the centre, you will (with practice) find a space of "no pressure" - this is the centre of your being and it will be somewhere in the middle of your body in a direct line with your visual focus on your forehead. [ more on the significance of the hands ]
    1. During the whole of the period, you should "imagine" that on one breath cycle, you are breathing in through the top of your head and filling your centre then breathing out through the soles of your feet.

      The next breath cycle is the reverse - in through the soles of the feet to your centre and out through the top of the head.

      As you breathe, allow your sense of hearing to focus on the sound the breath makes as it moves through your body.

      During the breathing, allow the out-breath to release any thoughts, impressions and feelings that may arise - using the in-breath to "fill" the empty space created by the release of the thought.

      With practice, you should be able to find a gap between the in-breath out-breath in-breath and you may find that you "drop" into it. You cannot create this "gap". [ The Breath that is you ]
    It may be necessary to practice this exercise a few times before it "happens" by itself and all of the stages "fall" into place. Do not look for any outcome - just practice for the practice and, after a certain time of releasing all of your discomfort, the practice will "do you".

    When it does this, you will know and the experience will be yours alone. I have seen people heal from incurable cancers and all sorts of other physical and mental illnesses from following this practice "religiously" every day for years .. and it is still my own practice …the most complete and the "simplest" in the long run. (Mira's Story)

    Please Note
    If you consciously use this exercise to involve another person for ANY reason, the probable outcome is that you will immediately take on every subconscious and unconscious dis-ease that the other person may be afflicted with. There will be no personal healing benefit for yourself and what you will "take on" is almost irreversible.

    This mirror exercise is between your self and your own naked reflection.

    Source -

    Transpersonal Self Healing Anunda.com Mirror Exercise
    #9 JingleBells, Jan 20, 2020
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  10. JingleBells

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    Self Healing: Practicing for the Practice

    Many people are absorbed in some sort of spiritual practice .. and most have some spiritual purpose in mind .. they have an expectation for some sort of outcome. Ultimately, there is no end, no outcome, no healed. There are only Stepping Stones to some new level of Health, Wellbeing or awareness.

    I have found that if I practice for the practice
    I absorb the practice
    The mind and the ego has an attachment to outcome. If your 'doing' is expressed with no attachment, or expectation of outcome .. or with no purpose ..

    then, whatever the outcome, whatever comes up from the body in the form of thoughts, feelings and emotions are not temporal. They are not linked to past or future and they can return to the silence of the no-thing from whence they came. In other words, they are, themselves, released by themselves by interpenetrating (merging) with their opposites..

    Practicing with a Purpose

    If I have a purpose, I have an expectation.

    If I practice for a purpose,
    I lose the practice and absorb the purpose
    If I have an expectation, I limit my self .. and what I can become. Purpose is the expression of a need. If there is a need, or expectation of an outcome .. in other words, a purpose, then, by the law of cause and effect, a pair of opposites are produced .. creation and destruction.

    Thus, if you focus on "Light and Love" you will create these as thoughforms .. and also create what some term as "dark entities" which are perceived as "Dark and Hatred (or fear)"

    But, if the practice is followed without any regard for outcome, then the outcome will follow as a growth or expansion without its opposite.

    Practicing for a purpose comes from a need or approval .. usually of a parent, priest guru or God, even though this may not be apparent in the moment. It can be advantageous to have a close look at any need. you may become aware of, as they arise.
    This is especially symptomatic of those with a Western Spiritual background, and is deeply ingrained in the psyche. So, don't be too hard on yourself if you find this need coming to the surface. Your awareness and acknowledgement is usually enough to see it dissolve.

    A nice article taken from Anunda.com

    For Every Action, There is an Equal And Opposite Reaction, For Every Thought, An Equal And Opposite thought, Don't fall into this trap over and over again, You'd just get Destroyed in the End.
    #10 JingleBells, Jan 21, 2020
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