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  1. Bigdaddy

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    Hi

    I’m a married gay man. Been married to a woman fir a few years but I feel attracted to men.

    Look at gay porn and get aroused when I see a cock.

    Just looking fir friends to talk to maybe slowly date
     
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    Hi Bigdaddy and welcome to the forum. Old cis bi guy speaking. :) 

    First off, with my "Forum Staff" hat on, a useful bit of FYI for you: this is an LGBT+ support forum, not a place to look for dates/hook-ups. If two forum members should happen to form a connection as a consequence of becoming friends on here, that's not a problem, but looking for a partner/date shouldn't be your primary objective in being here. ;) 

    Now that's out of the way... Hi! You're not the only guy here who's been in a hetero marriage for a while and discovered they're really gay or bi - we've quite a few. How are you handling it in relation to your marriage? Have you come out to your wife at all?
     
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    Hi

    Have not come out to her. Just trying to figure things out haha
     
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    Right. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you known that you're gay? Is it a recent discovery or have you just been kinda in denial for years? Sorry if this sounds nosey: I'm just interested in how the realisation dawned on you: if you went from being "I'm hetero" to "Cripes, I'm gay!" in one go, or maybe went through a period of thinking you were bi etc. but then realised that you just weren't into gals any more?
     
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    It’s taken several years. Thinking I was bi ave then seeing I only get aroused looking at men now.
     
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    hi bigdaddy- Not sure if I can add a lot of advice but wanted to let you know there are others struggling with the same thing. I've been married 19 years and have been trying to deny my attraction towards men. I really thought I would be able to contain these feelings but as the years go on (and from I've learned) you can't. You are what you are.

    I've finally come out to myself and felt a great relief just admitting that if only to myself. I know at some point I will need to speak with my wife, but joining this site and reading other messages have really helped.
     
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    I've notice lots of guys on another sites are married too and like guys too but haven't told his wife but it's hot though knowing a Married guy likes little fun with guys
     
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    It's ok here, be yourself. You are among friends. Love ya bro,Mikey.
     
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    Jessica45 Bisexual mtf. Slightly insane
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    I’m married bisexual and In the closet. There are a lot of us. This forum helps a lot
     
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    Reading through on here gave me enough courage to come out to me wife fully (not just hints), still only my wife I've told but its a start. At least now I am more at ease and can talk about myself for the first time in 40yrs.
    This forum is friendly and mostly informative and helpful (some unsavoury people or comments have crawled in during these times of isolation). You will find yourself when you accept yourself.
     
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    same here...most of the times, i have to think of a thick cock to have a hard on
     
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    I just hope you guys are sure that you are gays but I know some people are just curious and some just can't separate fantasies from real life and all the ways are okay but you need to be honest with yourself and make it clear ;) 
     

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