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Married and in the closet

Discussion in 'Bisexual & Pansexual' started by Jacksonvill, Aug 19, 2019.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Jacksonvill

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    Hi all,

    So im currently happily married with 3 children and ill be honest my life is good but i have been keeping a secret most of my life.

    From a young age (around 13) i have watched bi, gay and especially transexual porn as well as straight porn.
    I have never been attracted to a man in the real world though so i have come to the conclusion its mainly the penis i i attracted to.

    I have never talked about this before and dont think i ever will come out as like i have said i i happily married and i i wouldnt change that but i just needed someone or somewhere to open up to.
     
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    Hello Jacksonvill ,

    You're welcome to open up here as much as you like. We're a friendly community here :) 

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    Yup, Jacksonvill - you came to the right place. Welcome aboard. :) 
     
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    Jessica45 Bisexual mtf. Slightly insane
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    You are not alone in this. I’m a married and closeted bisexual man. This forum allows me to express myself. It’s very therapeutic
     
  5. Jacksonvill

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    Thanks everyone, even posting this seems to have lifted a weight off my shoulders.
    After 20 years this is the first time i i ha admitted this to anyone.
     
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    Hey! I'm the wife of a man that came out as bisexual. Hes a lot like you, married kids and happy. We have been experimenting a lot in the bedroom and hes been happier and its actually really strengthened our relationship. I will suggest branching out. But definitely talk to your wife about it. See if shed be open to it. I wont lie, o struggled with the realization because I always thought I had to worry about other women but then I realized it was EVERYONE. Lol. It's just different to get used to but I love him more now than ever and hes happy and so am I. Good luck!
     
  7. Jacksonvill

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    I wish this was an option but after 15 years together i know her well enough to know that this would put to much strain on our relationship and experimenting in the bedroom definitely wouldn't happen.
    Don't get me wrong i am happy to keep this a secret if it keeps my life as happy as it is now.
    Its not like i i would go out trying knew things with different people even if i did tell her so there isn't really anything to gain by telling her.
     
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    Hi, I have been happily married and with my husband for nearly 30 years. He has only recently revealed he is bisexual. I am heterosexual and had no idea.
    To be honest I wish he had told me years ago as it would of helped his mental health. It built up inside him and ultimately for a range of reasons, he cheated on me with a man.
    We are trying hard to work through this. Very tough. I believe we would of been fine with the bi stuff but cheating is another thing.
    Do whatever is right for you in your life but look after your mental health as it can have a devastating impact to hide a part of you and if you did cheat it is so much harder for the wife to understand.
    I wish you well on this journey.



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    Hi Jacksonvill,

    Welcome to a friendly place to open up and be able to discuss anything, the folks here are great.

    I too am like you, which is why, in the community, I deem myself a Nomasexual, but to the outside world that doesn't understand that, identify as bisexual, even though I'm also not attracted to men. I am off course attracted sexually to women, transwomen, effeminate males, and boyish girls.

    So you don't have to feel alone out in the world, there's a few of us to band together.

    Toni

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    Bro, anytime you need to talk we are here! I always thought being gay is like being a were wolf, you keep the fur, fangs and howling all inside. At work I'm a butch dude, but every so often gotta go to a gay bar and howl! Sometimes at the bar i like to get silly gay, telling a dude your a hunky! Just to let the were wolf out. And sometimes in my were wolf mode I get lucky on the hunt. Love be to you bro, please come back when you need to talk. I love Mikey.
     

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