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Is it easy to approach a girl ?

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by Your fave queer, Oct 12, 2019 at 10:30 AM.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Your fave queer

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    Do you think is it easy to flirt with a girl ? Im inexperienced and want to hear your experiences and how you see it
     
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    good question! i mean i have no idea becuz mine never worked!
    this is my question too.
    then to addition to question i have to ask: is it immoral to flirt with a girl or ogle when she doesnt know ur bi/lesbian?
     
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    I dont think it is if you do that move towards her with respect . If she is not into it she will show it but you dont know maybe she can be les or bi too
     
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    In person isn't easy at all. Online it is because I have a certain level of fake bravado that disappears very quickly when face to face. I "put on" that part of me that I want to be like, but rarely exists face to face. It's a miracle I've ever had a gf at all actually. I also don't drink much at all, very rarely, and I have probably only been drunk twice in my life, so I can't even rely on alcohol to reduce inhibitions. I do, however, shine when on copious amounts of caffeine..it unleashes my inner extrovert. Hmm..that sounds like some sorta parodox or oxymoron.
     
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    I'm a gay guy, but I noticed I find it very easy to flirt with women...but I'm not even aware that I'm flirting with them. I tease them, compliment them, make innocent jokes here and there. I'm not focused on how attractive they are. Just focused on how to make them feel comfortable.

    Many women are uncomfortable around me initially. So when I start a conversation they tend to relax. In the past I did not realise this, but many women hinted that they were interested in me because they thought I was interested in them.

    So yeah it is very easy to approach a girl for me. That's probably because I just want to have a good time as opposed to trying to impress them.
     
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    That's so often the case, and it's obvious why. You have no skin in the game and no agenda, so you're relaxed and easy to talk to. Result: women like interacting with you!

    I've had the same thing happen to me, the other way about, with lesbians. Work colleagues and suchlike. We find we get on soooo well and the conversation is super easy because there's no prospect of anything happening between us. Result: I end up with a totally futile crush on a woman I know perfectly well cannot reciprocate. D'oh! :D 
     
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    Thespis is right on so many levels.

    It is fun to be the safe person that women can talk to.
     
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    Oh haha the same happened to me with guys . Even if im not the most social person if im around guys im very relaxed , make jokes and maybe some of them think im flirting with them
     
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    It is. It's a privilege, too, and one I value. Just so long as that's not all I am to anyone... :( 
     
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    flirt means clever compliments, a small glipmse of lust and smile...i dont think its so difficult for anyone to perform...if the other person is responding positive, its the ideal start
     
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    I have witnessed my best friend awkward approach to women(including straight ones) she makes it to obvious of whom she likes it, she hasn't been able to flirt in years and I think it was because of her marriage(I could be wrong).

    I have never flirted in person because well every time I show my interest they back away and as for online, well that comes natural years of practice. It mostly takes in being yourself around woman like telling her: she is pretty, it's good to see her face, and so forth, it don't take much but being yourself is what most prefer.

    I hope this helps in anyway to answer your question.
     
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    I've never flirted because I've never been crushed on by a girl. But my friends said they have bi friends and I might meet them someday. I hope one of them like me back.


    I just realized most of the replies here are "I've never flirted," every sorry about that.

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    I can relate to what others are saying here. It's super difficult to flirt with a girl and I haven't pushed myself to do that yet, which probably a reason why I'm still single. Besides some friends told me I have this “hard to approach“ aura and at the same time I'm not the person who would make the first move ;___; I should do smth about it.

    Anyway I'm also relaxed when I talk to boys, often we have similar topics we can talk about especially games. It happened to me a few times some had a crush on me, while not knowing I'm a lesbian. Even though I wasn't flirting. It is true I often tell one of my friends (boy) that hey's very kind, but he knows I'm gay so...

    but yeah, relatable
     

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