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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Annalena, Mar 28, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Annalena

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    Heyy :)  I'm Annalena (You can call me Al if you want) and 15 years old. I'm from Germany so my english sucks sometimes, but I'll try my best. :)  Sooo… What can I say about me? I love reading and writing. Yes. I think thats it. I'm not very interesting.
     
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    Hi Annalena, welcome to the family!
     
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    Hai Annalena,
    that's ok about your english. English is also not my native language.. positive thing, you can learn more english here.. welcome :)  so you like to read, what book is your favorite?
     
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    Hello and welcome to a wonderful place to be or find you.

    I hope you find what you are looking for.

    Peace - Jo
     
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    Hi and welcome to the forum
     
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    hey guys, I’m sydney, i’m 17, and from michigan. i love music and food haha :)  so i’m on this forum because i’ve recently been struggling a lot with my sexuality. In my head i’m attracted to men, and i can picture myself sexually with them, but when i actually have sex with a guy i find myself disgusted with them. i’ve always gotten crushes on girls like my friends and stuff, but i’ve never actually expressed it to anyone because there aren’t a lot of bisexual girls or lesbians at my school. when i think of myself with them it makes a lot more sense in my head. i’m wondering if anyone here has gone through that kind of thing?
     
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    OOPS. Somehow I thought I was responding to the original post when I’ve responded to Ms Sydney Bean - - sorry Anallena.
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    I may not be the right person to respond to your post being an ancient old poof from Melbourne, but here goes. (others better qualified who’ve been in your situation will probably soon follow).

    Even though I knew I was attracted to other males from a very, very early age I still dreamt about having a wife and children. I’ve always put that down to the fact my generation, born at the end of World War 2, only ever read about or viewed straight relationships. That I’ve lived long enough to witness queer (I can’t get used to this LGBTI etc alphabet soup) marriage and parenthood blows me away.

    Being disgusted having sex with straight males isn’t all that uncommon, even for straight women, given so many are useless in bed having been raised on pornography teaching them very little about what women actually need and more importantly, what they don’t need.

    You say there aren’t a lot of bisexual girls or lesbians at your school. I’ll bet you there’s lots more than are letting on but be careful who you go being open with.

    A lot of people, both male and female, go through an experimental stage in early teenage years that later on changes. {Most of the males who ‘mess around with their mates’ later on deny they ever did.} However, I suspect in your case you’ve discovered something about yourself you will be living with for the long run.

    It will help those who follow this up here to respond if you say something about how you imagine your parents will react if you eventually come screaming out of the closet as a dyke or bi.

    Anyhow, welcome to the forum.
    PS: I love your forum name ‘Sydney Bean’ . Gave me the giggles for some reason.
     
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    Yeah, thank you. I have come out to my mom in the past as bisexual which is how i used to identify, but she never took it seriously. whenever she brings up relationships or crushes or anything like that, she always assumes for me that it would be with a boy. i’m pretty sure she thought i was just experimenting. i did have a girlfriend my sophomore year, and every day at dinner my mom would ask if i had broken up with her yet. it makes me uncomfortable to think about my mom knowing i don’t like men the way she thinks i do.
     
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    Sydney,

    I know it is hard but tune her out and embrace and love who and what you are.

    You are a strong and amazing person and somethings we cannot make our parents see that.

    When I came out, my father told me I was in hell. Two years later, he finally is calling me by my legal name. So progress

    Give her time and please never give up on you - Jo
     
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    Hey Annalena! First, welcome. Ive found (not food. Crazy autocorrect haha) this place quite supportive and I bet you will too :)  I also think your probably more interesting then you think. Sometimes its just hard to be open and so we hide the interesting things. BUt don’t fear, I have found people here don’t really judge, so be you. We are all happy to get to know you better :) .

    Lexa A.

    Also Welcome Sidney! I really like what john said. I think it is possible for people to simply be curious when they are young. But most of the time I think there is more to it then that. It may be a little something or it may be a big one. But that’s what you have to figure out. I think you’ll find the people here are more then happy to help in whatever way they can. But ultimately you will have to decide for yourself what your comfortable with and want. I don’t think its odd for you to not enjoy sexual experiences with guys, even if you are attracted to guys. And I could see how some bad experiences could sour your imagination and fantasies about them. As john said, anymore people are raised on porn it seems. It just so accessible. ANd while there are some people who are truly into some of the things you’d see there it caters to the mysoginistic aspects of you men and boys. It’s just the way they’ve found it to be most lucrative, so young men often believe by having sex for the purpose of fulfilling themselves they automatically fulfil their partner... and that is simply not true. If you end up continuing experiences things with male partners you will probably find some truth in that. But as for the other, there is nothing wrong if you find yourself attracted to a woman to pursue that. You need to do what makes you happy. I dated a girl in HS that many years later after a failed marriage ended up marrying a woman. And she seems so genuinely happy now, I’m just happy she has found her happiness. (We are still FB friends haha) Maybe you find that its not what you want. Maybe it is. But I tell people (the few I can :/, you may understand this more if you read my intro tread.. but warning its long haha) I don’t consider sexuality set in stone. I think people will be attracted to whoever they are. I don’t think gender matters. Having a preference for example of women doesn’t mean you will never be attracted to a man and vice versa. I think its not much different then being more easily attracted to a redhead or blonde as opposed to something else. You are attracted to certain traits, but often attraction increases or decreases as you know some based on who they are. And I think once you remove the stigma in your own mind of one thing being right or wrong in this regard you may find yourself attracted to someone you’d never expect regardless of gender or anything else. ANyway, I am not expert, but I hope this helps. You guys are both awesome and I’m glad your here :) 

    Lexa A.
     
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    Hi I’m Kim! I’m 15 too and your English seems great!
     

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