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    So I have a 1 year old baby girl. I'm currently dating this amazing women. She comes to see us a lot and my daughter really has gotten attached to her. We took our first pictures together today and my daughter wanted to take picture with us. I showed my cousin's girlfriend the picture with all of us and she told me that my daughter doesn't need to be in the picture with us. She told me my baby don't need to understand that right now. I just want to know what I did wrong because she turned a happy moment into a sad moment real quick with.

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    My opinion, you did nothing wrong. Your daughter is part of your family and she can be in the pictures as much as she likes.

    Maybe ask her what bothered her so much about having your daughter in the picture and try to work it out like adults.

    Again, just my opinion, everyone is different. I would be cross if my significant other didn't consider my daughter part of the package so to speak.

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    She calls my family her family. I don't want to exclude my daughter from anything. It just made me feel kind of hurt with her response.

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    You didn't do anything wrong. Your cousin's girlfriend should mind her own business.
     
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    A good relationship is built on understanding. Let her know how you feel about it and work it through. Maybe take some pictures with just her too if that's what she really wants, suppose it doesn't hurt anyone :) 

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    What does it matter to her that your daughter is in the picture... Really.

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    Thank you so much
    Me and my girlfriend have no problem with it, my cousin girlfriend does. But then again, my cousin girlfriend always has something negative to say.

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    Apologies for misreading the post, I agree with bibi, it isn't really her business. Don't take anything she says to heart. From what you're saying "she always has something negative to say", I wouldn't value her opinion, personally.

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    Ah one of those people. I'd just ignore her, there's no pleasing some people.
     
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    Yeah, don't cause a fuss, just ignore it. No reason to cause a stink for such a silly comment.

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    Thank you guys I feel so much better now

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    No worries! We're always here for ya :) 

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    Believe me, you have done nothing wrong.

    I have a best friend Carol* so far 13 years. When we met and dated for half a year, I broke it off. She has always wanted to have children. I never put myself in a position to even think about it twice.

    She now has two beautiful, lovely girls (I wish I could post), and she is dating the woman of her dreams, about to get married.... Carol's children (biological mother and their father/friend) loves Carol's girlfriend so much they can't tell the difference. Children don't know what boys should act like and be with romantically. They know that they have two parents that love and take care of them.

    My friend is more the "I'm lesbian and proud through my demeanor not my activism" type of person. She lives up the stereotype. She told me as long as she is honest (with her children's teachers, neighbors, employees, etc), people. really. just don't care enough to say something about it.

    Anyway, you didn't do anything wrong. They're not your child's mother. Children get confused when they see and experience adults having conflict. If there were no such thing, your child would just see one male and female couple, two males, two females, ask for a cookie and go about their day.

    It's the adults that makes children confused. Don't listen anyone telling you its wrong. It really isnt.

    Okay. I'm off my trigger soap box.
     
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    Some people just forget what it's like to be a child.
    Children don't even think about relationships until taught to, especially not when they are 1 year old!
    Don't worry, you have done nothing wrong (I would even think the opposite), your daughter will only see two people who love each other.
     
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    Yep. yep. We're always here 24/7 :) 
     
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    u didnt do anything wrong and i m glad that u finally have a lovely woman
     
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    Now im being told that im codependent on her.. I don't ask her for anything. She always offers. Even when I say she doesn't have to do things, she wants to anyways. I am totally able to do things for myself but she wants to be there for me. She wants to be a part of my life. She makes me so happy. This is the first time I have ever been this happy, but it's like everytime I get comfortable with her, someone always has something to say.

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    They might just be jealous of the relationship?
    You seem to have a good thing going and your significant other treats you well.

    Who cares what they're saying? You're happy, end of story as far as they're concerned.

    Congratulations on finding someone who makes you feel special :) 

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