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I'm confused with my sexuality

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by ImNotRevealimgMyName, May 15, 2019.  |  Print Topic

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  1. ImNotRevealimgMyName

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    Hey everyone. I just joined this because over the past few weeks I have notice that I have felt attracted to girls and its freaking me out. My nan is lesbian and my auntie is bisexual but I still don't know how to tell anyone. I'm only 13 so I'm not certain i'm actually a lesbian but just looking for some help. The thing that is really freaking me out is that I'm in love with my friend who is also a girl, but they are openly lesbian so I'm not using my real name here because she might be on here. If somebody could give me some advice that would be great!
     
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    Hey, I know it's difficult, and you are young and many changes yet to come, so I'd encourage you not to fret over it too much. Maybe you are lesbian, maybe bi, maybe straight but just going through some things, sorting out your feelings, so hard to say. I went from straight, to bi by 14, then lesbian (at least I thought) at 17, then back to bi by 18 (though I lean more towards girls). It's not necessarily something that will be all neat and tidy. Just ride it out, experiment where appropriate, and see where life takes you. :) 
     
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    Hey sorry I never replied to you before but thank you for the advice. Its not been very long but I've changed my mind a lot over the past month. I'm certain (for now) that I'm gay and I've had a really big crush on Brie Larson for a while now. I've come out to a few of my friends as well and so far they've all been fine with it. I was really suprised because the person I was really scared to tell is bi! I'm not that confused anymore and I feel a lot better now
     
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    You are so very welcome and that is lovely! So is this bi friend the one you hoped to be with? If so, is she reciprocating your interest?
     
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    No, its a different friend to the one I hoped to be with because the one I hoped to be with was openly gay, but I only just found out this friend is bi.
     
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    Would you consider being with this other friend instead?
     
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    Possibly because this friend is my best friend and we a very close
     
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    What do you think of you when get hot?
     
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    Lovely. It may really be worth pursuing. :) 
     
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    hello, just an update of what's going on and I don't think I want to be with my best friend anymore because I moved school and I don't really see her anymore and anyways there is someone at my new school that I really like, and I mean I REALLY REALLY like her. I'm definitely feeling a lot more strongly about her than I ever have before. It's gotten to the point where I'm actually considering asking her out next week, but she could be straight. It's worth a shot though! It has helped that I told someone who is friends with both of us that I'm gay and I have a crush on someone, then she guessed who it was on the first try! Today we came into school and my crush was in front of me and our friend was in the corner and we kept making these stupid faces at each other but nobody else knew what was happening, it was hilarious. I've just got my fingers crossed she'll say yes
     
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    I so hope it works out for you! :) 
     

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