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Lesbian I told my husband

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  1. Divergent

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    I no longer feel like I am being crushed.

    It wasn’t the conversation that I had started planning, but it was a conversation.

    He thought I was going to tell him I had cheated on him. So when I told him I wanted to be with another woman, it seemed to be easier for him to take.

    There are still many things for us to work out but my first big step is done. And I feel like I can breathe again.
     
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    Congratulations. Easier for him to take? I don’t want to come across as purile or superficial but it’s worth considering a high percentage of straight men have a hidden fantasy of watching women have sex/make love. I wouldn’t ask him just yet though if that’s on his mind as he might anticipate being invited to an immediate ‘performance’ . If you’re new to lesbian experience it wouldn’t be a good idea to have an ‘audience’ when you’re just finding your way. I admire your openness and hope it all works out.
     
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    I am very happy and proud of you for taking care of you!!!

    John is right. Your first time will be hard enough on you with a woman. Keep it special and just for the two of you.

    You can share details later (with your husband) :) 

    Again - so happy and proud of you.

    Long hug filled with hope and love - Jo
     
  4. Divergent

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    I think he was more okay with me saying I want to be with women than if I had cheated.
    He has said before that me being with another woman would be something he would consider cheating. Unlike some men that would want to watch or join.
    Everything is still pretty fresh, with his hurt feeling and still thinking that he did something to push me to women. I think that is going to be the hardest thing; convincing him he didn’t do anything to make me want women.
    Thank you for your support in this crazy undefined time in my life.
     
  5. BisexualGirl14❤

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    Congrats. I'm proud of you. <3
     
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    That's cool, I'm glad it worked out, I'd imagine it was difficult, but you got through it :) 
     
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    So happy and proud that you came out ! Coming out to my wife was the hardest thing to do ?
     
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    I’m so proud of you, Divergent! How are you both now?
    Also, may I ask, is your name connected to the book/movie of the same name? ❤️
     
  9. Divergent

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    Thank you, for now we are still together until we can sort through... let’s be honest, a lot of stuff.
    And yes, I got the name from the books and movies. I like that it means different.
     
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    Yes, of course. One step at a time ❤️
    I just finished reading the book, I really related to the story too. Lots of love
     

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