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Discussion in 'Agender/Non-Binary/Fluid' started by Sox, Dec 31, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Sox

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    I’ve posted in other sections before but this one is a first. I’ve questioned my gender before thinking i was transgender MTF but I found that wasn’t me. Then I thought I was demiboy, but that doesn’t feel like me either. I’ve been wondering if I’m non-binary or gender fluid. I’m a feminine and masculine and hate having to go into the masculine role. But at the same time I don’t want to be in the feminine role. I’ve thought about using they/them pronouns but I’m not sure how my mum is going to act and how my grandpartens will act as I live with them. My name doesn’t bother me but after looking into it the pronouns partly do, I may change my name or shorten it in the future. But am I gender fluid or non-binary?
     
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    If your gender is constantly the same you are probably non-binary. If it changes a bit you could be gender fluid.
     
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    I just feel like me. I’m like a mixture but not a mixture. I do feel like I’m constantly one thing , but I’m never sure what it is.
     
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    Sounds like you are some variation of non-binary. If you want a more specific lable you just have to keep trying them out to find what fits. Be you and be happy.
     
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    I’m happy for the moment in being non-binary. It just makes this all feel better knowing that there is a name for who I am. Actually reading it makes me feel a lot better and lot more nervous in asking people for acknowledgment and pronoun changes. What should my next step be do you think?
     
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    Just take it slow and build up your support network. If you feel like your family will at least consider it talk to them about how you feel. Surround yourself with friends who support you. Play around with clothing and ways to present yourself. Find out who you are and have as much fun as you can.
     
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    Clothing wise and body wise I’m fine with that it’s a lot more social and what people call me. But clothes that would work for both women and men I’d be fine to try. it’s just like I feel I’m not me and people aren’t talking about me when they say he or him or when they see me as a man. I’ve always preferred being in a group or working with people I get along with no matter there gender. But I hated being forced into the boys group or into activities that are for guys.
    I’m not a guy but I don’t feel like a woman so non-binary sounds right
     
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    "I'm just me" sounds like possibly agender (no gender, or gender neutral), but you yourself will know for sure. I'm agender but often lean masculine in habits and personality though I'm AFAB. Some days I can even feel girly, but mostly I feel neutral.

    FYI you don't *have* to have a gender. Choosing "None of the above" is always a valid option.
     
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    I just told my mum that i would like to go by they/them pronouns to see what it feels like. However once i said it, it didn’t feel right and i knew I didn’t like they/them and preferred he/ him pronouns. How do i tell her that i want to go back to he/him less than a day after telling her the opposite?
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    FYI I’m not going back in the closet i just know myself better and i know i like he/him pronouns. But how do i tell her less than 24 hours later
     

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