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Bisexual Help!! How do you hit on someone of the same gender?

Discussion in 'Bisexual & Pansexual' started by Bunni Sky, Oct 12, 2019 at 7:56 AM.  |  Print Topic

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    Hi there!

    Long story short, I'm going out tonight to bar/show and have green light from hubby to hit on ladies as I desire (I always have but I never really go out, I'm an anxious girl).

    How do you make moves on someone of the same sex to let them know you're interested?

    I've done it i guess in the sense where I've been out drinking and get tipsy and start openly telling women I'm attracted to that they are "so beautiful" and I'll buy them a drink or two but it's never gone farther than that, I shy away and usually the girls are drunk and thinking I'm just being friendly or something because they laugh it off and will move on. What am I doing or not doing that is making them leave?

    Please please help, I don't go out often so this will be the only time in a long time that I have a chance! Xo
     
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    behave like u dont care and focus in one girl who u think will respond...buy her a drink and talk with her, making her to understand clearly your preference to girls...
     
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    Ahh great feedback Mike, that sounds excellent!

    How do I do this though? I know that's like the biggest part but I am so scared of coming off too pushy about it. Any suggestions of things I can say to make this clear to her?
     
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    I have no advice but it sounds very exciting and I wish you good luck
     
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    well, i m not a girl , but i know from experiance, that girls like compliments,,,tell her how beautiful she is, about her eyes and body, looking her straight in the eyes...try not to laugh all the time but smile and dont get very serious , try to balance between smile and coolness
     
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    You are spot on with this. In retrospect, I definitely think it's that "coolness" I've lacked. I can get giggly when I'm nervous.
     
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    to make u feel more cool,maybe u will not need to make any effort, its possible that a girl with the same needs will approach u before u make any try
     
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    I love giggly. It’s so cute
     
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    Wanted to add that wearing something rainbow or otherwise LGBT-themed would help indicate that you're not just being friendly.
     
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    Oh my, you've made me blush. I don't feel too much like a fool after all lol! ♡
    --- Double Post Merged, Oct 12, 2019 at 8:57 AM ---
    Ah! That's a great idea! I remember low key trying this when I wore a rainbow ring in high school but I got too many questions about it that I got so nervous I threw it away :(  Now I actually want the questions.. hmm but I don't know if I can get anything necessarily rainbow by tonight. I'm a very black-on-black outfit border. :/ any suggestions on what I could fashion easily?
     
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    If you're into that sort of thing, girls who like girls often paint their ring finger a different color than their other fingers.
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    I still haven't told my very straight mother the connotations behind this sort of manicure :skype-rofl: 
     
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    Lol! I love it!
     
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    Bunni, a question... is this thing happening at a gay/lesbian bar, or are you taking pot luck among the general population?

    I know as much about flirting as Donald Trump knows about... [INSERT TOPIC - LITERALLY ANY TOPIC - HERE] ...but my one piece of advice is to be careful with the alcohol. Nervousness can lead to drinking too much too quickly, and nobody wants to be hit on by a glassy-eyed fool. Alternate your booze with mineral water or suchlike.

    Oh and eat your greens and wash behind your ears. ;) 
     
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    General pop, there is a music event I'm going to there and its a bar im familiar with, or I wouldn't really go out lol. It generally will have people of my age and same music crowd as well as some friends I know, so I'm starting there.

    I've never tried a gay/lesbian bar before. I've considered it but I'm nervous about going to new bars alone and don't really have anyone that I know that would want to go with me to one. :( 

    And yes I totally agree with the drinking part! You are totally right. I have been one to go over my drinks. Im going to only take a certain amount of cash for drinks. Opening tabs on my card always gets me in trouble
     
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    Hope you have fun
     
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    If you spot someone that tickles your fancy and offer to buy her a drink. If is accepts then get her a drink and complement her hair or her clothes or her eyes or her smile and go from there. Like if a woman is wearing a nice pair of jeans and fills them out well step a little closer and look her in the eye, smile, and tell her how well she fills out her jeans. Alternate between looking at her eyes and her lips.

    And get your flirt on girl!
     
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    Why do I get the impression that Mike is a player? hahaha. You almost had me there Mike, are you single? *wink* :p  oh wait..I'm a lesbian..I almost forgot.
     
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    You are so smooth, I'd fall for you real quick if you tried that on me!

    If I can only summon that much confidence - I will try my luck. The worst they can think is im just being weirdly nice right? ;p
     
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    I'm way more confident online. .///.
     
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    i was a player..a good one...and u look very beautiful, Kahlan...
     

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