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Bisexual - Female HELP! Am I bi??

Discussion in 'Questioning & General LGBT' started by Aliy, Oct 29, 2018.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Aliy

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    I am a high schooler from an accepting family but this has been a tough question for me for years now. Basically,
    -90% of my crushes have been boys
    -I haven’t had any serious relationships but upon kissing a guy I didn’t feel anything
    -TMI, but in porn and in general, penises are not very attractive to me. Generally I am attracted to the women in porn?
    I am very confused. Please send any insights or advice!
     
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  2. AudryLeigh
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    Well, you might try kissing a girl and see if you feel something.

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  3. MikaIsAHuman
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    I agree with Audry.
    Try new things, you won't know unless you put yourself out there.
    Also, there is no rush as to finding out who you are and don't feel that you need to label yourself. Take your time. When the time is right you will know.

    I hope this helps at all.
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    Kissing is kind of weird -- it's cultural behavior, not biological. It means different things in different cultures, and it certainly isn't a necessary part of intimacy. As a prelude to sex, it didn't even arrive in Europe (from India) until the Middle Ages.

    So, don't use kissing as your test of sexual attraction -- just because none of those boys you kissed didn't do much for you doesn't mean you wouldn't enjoy it far more with some other boy -- the right boy. You might have exactly the same response if you experimented with kissing girls -- unless you happened to find the right girl.

    So, don't use kissing to judge your sexuality -- and don't use porn, either. Porn is somebody else's fantasy, so a much better approach is to dream up your own. Indulge in your very own, very personal sexual fantasies, and see what kinds get you physically excited. In your imagination, you get to dream up your ideal lovers -- and after that, you can look for people IRL who are most similar to what you really want.
     
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    Have you any crushes on girls in real life? You'd likely have to explore things that way to get a better idea.
     
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    I found out I was bisexual through huge fictional crushes. In my experience, the more you explore-- whatever that means, the more your sexuality becomes clear to you. Even if you're not into the thought of sleeping with men, it can still mean you are into men, but perhaps only romantically, notnsexually. There is no need to rush into a label, so take your time exploring.
     
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    Maybe you weren't super into the boy you kissed? I've kissed my best friend and felt nothing with her but feel everything when I kiss my girlfriend. As for porn, even before I knew for sure I was into girls I was always into lesbian porn. Probably a clear sign looking back lol. But like everyones saying, there's absolutely no rush. When you know you know :) 
     
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    I kinda feel the exact same way but I talked it out with a guy on here and he helped me pls make a Convention with me if you want to talk
     
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    Plenty of straight women I know think the penis is ... ugly. Also, sometimes there just isn't any chemistry.
    My advice for you is to just keep the possibility of being with another woman in mind as you go about your days. It's taken me a long time... If you find yourself attracted to another lady at any point, you're probably bi.
     
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    Don't rush things, you've got plenty of time to figure things out. The best way to find out is to find a girl that is mutually attracted to you and see how it feels. The heart doesn't lie... Don't rush putting a label on yourself either. Happy hunting!
     
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    I'm not sure I could say it better than that and happy hunting indeed! The pursuit is almost better than the actual culmination of what you were hoping for (and I do mean almost ;) ). lol
     
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    The thing with life is, it’s a big journey to figure out who we are. I spent so long trying to put myself in boxes, find a label that fit my identity. Then i realised, I am who i am, i like who i like. Simple. And it’s fun just figuring out who those people are. Its not all about gender, theres all sorts of factors that make someone attractive to someone in my opinion.

    Just listen to yourself, be free to fancy who you fancy and have fun exploring.
     

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