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Friends with Ex?

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by GreekGurl, Nov 30, 2019 at 9:49 AM.  |  Print Topic

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  1. GreekGurl

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    So, by a show of votes, yes or no, can you ever really just be friends with your ex?
     
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    It's entirely dependent on how the relationship ended. If you fell out of love with each other but aren't daggers drawn, absolutely you can. The problem is with what happens more often: partner A falls out of love with partner B and leaves, but partner B still keeps a little secret flame going for A. Tricky.

    The other difficult one is when a couple are split up by forces beyond their control and never get the chance to fall out of love. There'll always be an electricity between them that can make "friendship" kinda exciting... ;) 
     
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    Cannot be a yes or no with all the variables.

    Sorry
     
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    I second what Thespis said.

    I have a few exes I would rather pretend didn't exist and others with whom I am friends or would like to be.
     
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    I'm friends with my ex.
     
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    it depends,,there is no yes or no
     
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    It depends on you I guess
    Personally, I can’t be friends with my ex
     
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    I agree with Thespis, although in my situation, I was person B. What helped though is neither of us have dated again (it’s been a year and a half), he never recognized my gender, and sex with him was never really better than mediocre. So really, we’re better as friends. But if one still has some feelings, it’s good if neither dates for a while...not like you necessarily have a choice in that.

    I will say, if he dates again first, that may be a problem even though it’s already been 1 ½ years.
     
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    I am friends with my ex. I broke it off because we had huge differences in our values and life goals. We always believed we can still be friends with our exes. My friend has two beautiful kids and still communicates with their mother even after the breakup between the two. She and I talk a lot and she is dating the girl she wants to marry. I'll be her brides maid.

    Depends on what the breakup was about and the nature of the relationship. The only reason my friend talks to her ex who abused her is because they raised children together. So the children sees their mother, their biological father (my ex's friend), she talks to me, and has a girlfriend.

    It depends.


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