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Discussion in 'Bisexual & Pansexual' started by RayAbl, Jun 3, 2019.  |  Print Topic

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  1. RayAbl

    RayAbl Greenhorn
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    Do lesbians or other bisexual girls not want to date a girl who is inexperienced with other women? I have never dated a girl or even kissed a girl before but I want to find a girlfriend and I’m wondering if it is a turn off for someone to be inexperienced like I am.. thank you! <3
     
  2. Christian74

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    No, its not a turn off. Im married so Im not flirting when im saying this, its just the truth. Lesbians are just like guys with a virgin girl...its a thrill to turn them out, so to speak. So dont feel out of sotts when you start dating a lesbian, she will most likely do anything she can to charm your pants off. Lol.

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  3. RayAbl

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    Haha okay, I am just nervous because I haven’t dated a girl before. I wasn’t necessarily meaning with sex only, like the relationship in general.. because I feel like I would be reallyyy shy about everything haha
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    Thank you for the help though, that does make me feel a bit better haha
     
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    LOL! I'm sorry, didn't mean to sound so crude. No, don't worry about being shy, its all fun. Before I got married I made it my goal to turn out "straight" or "bi curious" girls. I loved dating them, showing them new things. It was always a good time. In fact my Wife of 13 years now was "straight" so to speak. Lol! And we still have a blast as if we were dating. You will have an amazing time and learn different things with different people. Its easy to fall in love with something new, so be careful.

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    onthecontrary, is a turn on!!!
     
  6. Doc

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    I have the exact same fears. Although, I would also be afraid that people wouldn't believe me because being inexperienced, I haven't "proven" my sexuality yet. I've been turned down and no one's really been interested now that I've been single for nearly a year so I don't know if it's because I'm not experienced (although not sure they would know that), because I was previously with a guy (not sure they would know that either) or I'm just not attractive enough to warrant any attention lol.
     
  7. RayAbl

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    Yeah I feel you there, haha. I’ve been on dating sites and all the women that I have talked to ghost me after a day. So idk what to think haha
     
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    I can honestly tell you that your lack of experience is not something that can turn off someone who is really interested in you and getting to know you, but it can be a sort of protection to keep away from you people who are just interested in using you. If a person is really into the idea of starting a relationship with you, she will be patient, and she will be happy to represent your first times in a relationship so that you can grow up with her.
     
  9. Doc

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    At least you've managed to talk to women on dating sites. I don't recall getting that far unless there were maybe some looking for a hook-up? I'm not sure. Just like with dudes, I have absolutely no idea what to say so I just like their profile and hope they like mine and figure it out from there...unfortunately maybe one actually liked me back but we weren't a good match.

    So, if you don't mind me asking, who's initiating and what do you/they say?
     
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    Just like what Christian74 said, to be honest, it's kind of hot (sorry). Always intrigued (and happy) when I have such opportunities (and such girls aren't always young and inexperienced in life; just with women. I've been with more 'mature' women who'd never been with a girl before me). :) 
     
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    speaking as a closeted Bi (so this is purely fantasy) ...
    If i was out and single I would be off to the monthly lesbian club night in the city. and drag my sister along for company. Dance the night away in a club full of beautiful ladies. Might meet some one, might not, but I would go out and enjoy myself anyway.

    I have to say dating apps etc go over my head, probably because I've never used them.
     
  12. _Dune_

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    I'm in the same position as you. I'm single for 2 years now and I felt ready to be in a relationship with someone (I'm bi). I met a girl on a dating app. everything was fine. As soon as I said that I never dated girls, she became more distant. At one of our dates she asked if I was sure of my sexual orientation, cause she didn't want to"get use", I get it... But what she said to me it hurt me. I am not that "cruel" I wouldn't date someone, get involved and then stop everything because I'm not "sure" of my sexual orientation. long story short she decided to "break up" because she didn't feel ready to be in a relationship (jokes on me). But yeah I'm always afraid of that sentence " are you sure that you're bi ?" I find it rude. I hope your dates will be better than mine !

    english is not my mother tongue so if I did some mistakes sorry !
     
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    That's a shame it didn't turn out. I know, I used to get the "are you sure" question, too. Sometimes still, only because they look at me and say I seem so straight because I am very feminine, as well as a bit prim and proper in my appearance publicly. Usually it works out in the end and they soon learn I am definitely interested in girls, but it can still be a bit of an issue even after all these years and at my age, which can be a little annoying.

    I hope you connect with someone soon. Please do feel free to message me anytime if you'd like to chat here. :) 

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    So is your sister bi or lesbian, too? Or is it you'd just want her there for moral support, even if she ends up getting hit on by various women she has no interest in? lol
     
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    I have a fear of this happening, especially since I'm shy and very anxious about physical and sexual contact in general due to previous bad experiences. I have to wonder if it's just better to not to volunteer the information that one is inexperienced and just say I'm shy.
     
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    I am usually the one who starts the conversation but they don’t usually want to keep talking to me after a day haha. I usually try to get to know them a little bit and see if we have anything in common
     
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    I'm new to the site and only recently came out as bi to my mom, sister and best friend. I've accepted it to myself for a year about now but I'm not sure if I've been dealing with this longer, maybe since middle school or not. I've never actually had romantic relationships but I know I'm attracted to both men and women. Though love is love to me long before I realized I was bi, I'm just not quite sure how I feel about other genders like nonbinary and whatnot. Does anyone else feel like I do? I feel kind if silly considering I'm an adult and have never had an actual relationship.
     
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    It is not uncommon for a woman to say she is a lesbian or bi without having sex with another woman. True, there are a number of lesbians and bi women that will not have a real relationship with another woman without being in a past relationship with a woman. Even that all lesbians and bi women had a first girlfriend that ended up in sex between the two women.
     

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