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  1. Nice

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    Hi, this is my first attempt to say that I am gay. I think nobody knows i am gay. The culture I come from doesn't allow to be gay. But since many years I am trying to find someone around me who is gay as well. But no success yet.
    How I can find reliable & trustworthy gay friends. I am scared to search online as I have heard not many good things.
    Can anyone suggest me a way to find friends?
    Thanks
     
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    It depends a lot on where you live, and how careful you have to be. There are different levels of intolerance in different places, ranging from mild disapproval to murder.

    There are LGBT civil rights organizations active even in places where gay sex can land you in jail, and the people active in those organization are likely to be reliable and trustworthy -- if you have the courage to be seen with them in public. You're much more likely to meet other gay men in cities than in rural areas, and you can improve your chances by getting involved in arts organizations.

    Finding people online is tricky even in places that are not intolerant of gays -- and in a culture where gay relationships risk being against the law, you would have to be especially cautious. Are "dating apps" even allowed where you live?
     
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    I promise, I wont tell anybody.. I have what I consider friends here...
     
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    I agree....I live in a small town, where being gay really isnt the most popular thing to be. So, most of my friendships have come from online...groups, forums. It is possible to meet some good people....but, you still have to be careful. Anyway, welcome :) 

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    i came from a country for being gay is illegal and could be put in jail :) 
    but i'm glad my family and my friends accepting they who i am.

    feels free for chat cause i'm looking for gay friends too :) 
     
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    Thanks guys for supportive comments. I have already created lot of problems for myself. I am not sure how to get out of this. Too scared to share online. Need some really good friends. Can you please recommend good sites where you have good experience of finding friends or partners?
    I see there are many sites but they ask to upload photos? Is it really required? Are there any places where gay people can meet but do not share anything online? I am near Melbourne.
     
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    Hi Nice,
    It's good that you live near a big city, even if you do come from a culture/family background that is disapproving. At least you are within easy reach of LGBT resources and social groups.

    AFAIK, every dating site or hook-up app will expect you to upload a photo. Potential partners have to know whether they find you attractive! However, I'm not sure whether the online dating world is quite the right place for you to start at. Hooking up with strangers is unavoidably risky, especially for the inexperienced. You could do with getting to know other gay people in a more informal social setting. That way, you will gain confidence and are more likely to make genuine friends who can guide you away from known predators etc. I'm not an expert on the Melbourne gay scene, though!

    You say "I have already created a lot of problems for myself" - could you explain this a bit more?

    I see from your profile that you are 23. Are you earning enough money to live independently, or are you still living with your family?
     
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    Happy New Year guys!!
    Yes, I am independent. And can't explain the problem. It's big story & it I tell part of it then You may feel I am lying.
    Anyone here from Melbourne or surrounding area who can guide me.
     
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    Hello. I have no idea how to find someone. If you want we can start chatting, maybe even meet if possible. I'm gay also and looking for friends, at least one. So if interested - leave a message.
     
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    Hey if you have any problems just share here, it's pretty safe and the people here are very helpful. Or we can get in touch if you want someone to talk/ chat on a daily basis.
     
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