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Asexual Do you ever get tired of explaining your sexuality?

Discussion in 'Asexual & Grey-Ace' started by Fabi, Nov 17, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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    Hey :) 

    When I tell someone that I am asexual 99% of the people don´t know what that means.
    I use dating apps and when it comes to my sexuality, I always have to explain it. I always explain it very well in my opinion but no one ever believes that I can still want to date someone. And a lot of times they get mad at me for being asexual which does not make any sense.
    I´m open about my sexuality to my friends. I´ve been for years with my bisexuality and when I found out that I am also asexual I also told them. My best friend and someone I knew from school didn´t knew that word and the meaning before and I explained it. Sometimes they ask me questions but they all accept me. (And of course I answer all of their questions as good as possible) I always had the luck that I "only" had an (at least 80%)-homophobic class for 3 years. But when I see all those people, saying that I´m just "saying that to get attention", that I "lie", I´m "prude" and "just never tried it", bc "how can someone know they don´t want it, if they never tried" it makes me so mad.
    My sexuality is real and I am honest about who I am.
    They ask questions like "But do you masturbate". We talked for not even 2 Minutes and they ask that kind of question?? Also that still has nothing to do with not wanting to sleep with someone.
    Sometimes I even wish I could just be like other people and feel those needs. But when I think of it, I instantly rather wanna put sissors into my eyes and think, "If anyone wants to do that, I rather stay single".

    Damn, sorry for the rant but I don´t know anyone who´s asexual and I really wanna know if it´s just me or if you feel the same way about explaining asexuality and the reactions of others.

    It´s a bit longer than I thought it would be and I am very sorry if it´s not the best english but I am sooo tired right now

    Thanks for reading!
     
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    It is difficult to explain. I'm a demisexual myself and it gets tiring trying to explain it to people.
     
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    The Thing is, I want to explain bc it´s important that more People know that. But the reactions are almost never nice...
     
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    People are often not willing to accept anything outside of their experience as valid unfortunately. If they can imagine it then it can't be true.
     

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