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Bisexual & want to tell Wife help.

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  1. MD80

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    So I been having these feeling for a long time. I was afraid and also confused as I knew I wasn’t gay. My first experience was when I was about 15/16 and we had sex for the summer and jerked off looking at magazine. After that I was like I like girls and alway was attracted to them. As I got older I had urges of men. They came and gone. I always have been with women. So now I’m 39, been married for almost 13 years. I have in the past checked guys in the gym locker rooms (when I was actually going). Always have checked there packages out where I have gone. I even have watched and looked at transgender porn which I guess since they mostly look like women I feel not gay. I still very much love looking and checking women out. I love and never would think of being with anyone else but my wife as I want to spend the rest of my life with her and we want to have kids and grow old together. I hate having this over my shoulder but afraid what she will say. I know she said if I ever dress like a women or gay she will leave me. It was brought up when I was trying the Snapchat gender filter. She did caught me with a prostate toy I use which I love to use. I’m just don’t know what to do. I feel the longer I hold it the longer it will eat up inside of me.
     
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    Hey I'm married and Bisexual too I recently came out to my wife after 7 years of marriage she loves and accept me for who I am and is ok with me liking guys
     
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    How did you tell her? I had trouble sleeping all night cause I wanted to tell her but was afraid and scared.
     
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    I told my fiance not too long ago. I was super nervous and said I wanted to talk about something, so I think I freaked him out a bit. He thought it was going to be more serious lol One piece of advice I would give is to say upfront that you don't want to be with anyone else, male or female. From the sound of it you want to tell her so that you don't have to hide or that she can know you better, not because you want any immediate change in your love life. I felt the same, and I think being clear about that made for a better conversation.
     
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    sometimes is very hard to speak with people and tell them how you feel.. so in the end you just choose to live in the shadow...
     
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    The longer you keep it in, the longer it will eat at you. I'm now 53, and my wife and I discussed it early on in our relationship, and it is a heavy weight lifted off for shoulders. Mine even started bringing it into our sex play, and it is awesome.

    Ultimately, it is your decision to come out or keep it a nagging secret between you. She is either loving and accepting of you, or could swing the other way. Either way, you will be free from the burden of that secret.

    Good luck

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    So I finally was able to tell my wife. It was so hard and scary. She accepts my sexuality and believes everyone is bisexual. She thought it was worst then that when I told her I need to tell her something. She was hurt I kept it from her for so long, but understands why I it took me so long. She understands that it was a very tough thing to say. I told her I don’t want to be with anyone else and she is fine because she doesn’t want to share me weather it’s male or female.

    This was a very heavy thing to hit her with. She did bring up the trust issue as thinking what else am I hiding. Told her this is the only thing I was hiding and it was eating me up and was scared I would have lost her. Told her I married her cause I love her and want to be with only her and have a family together. I’m glad she accepts me for who I am and who I’m attractive to and that both sexes turn me on.

    Told her my past with males and was in denial and knew I wasn’t gay and trying to let these feelings go away but didn’t. I feel so much better now. There’s no reason to let anyone know as this is our sex life and doesn’t affect anyone else which I’m fine with. Told her I want to be how we were before I told her this which I’m glad we can as long as I don’t act on my bi urges. Sorry about the long post but I’m very glad I was able to get advice! Thanks!
     
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    Good luck and happiness to you in the future.

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    I am so happy for you MD80. It was a huge relief for me too when I finally admitted to my wife that I was Bisexual. I love Women romantically and sexually, but Men are for sex only for me. She was worried that she would lose me to another man, but I have assured her that she won't. She has since admitted to me that she watches me in crowds and sure enough I only check out the Women, not the Men. Now if they had their penises hanging out, that would be snother story!
     
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    I was talking how I thought my best friend was cute then asked me if I am bisexual and I said yes
     
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    She is thinking about using my prostate massager on me while riding me to watch me squirm. I want to get a vibrating one possibly one she controls. I want to try and work up to her pegging me which I haven’t mentioned but told me she not at that point of wanting to stick something up my butt. At least she’s fine with my looking at gay, transgender porn as I told her it will be a visual release for me to get off and not a physical release to go out and find someone to release the tension so that made her better. Glad I can look at that without issues. She’s glad she found out from me then finding out on my phone like she did on this forum after I told her.
     
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    Jessica45 Bisexual mtf. Slightly insane
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    My wife knows about, and is ok with my butt toys, but she won’t do it with me. It is purely a solo event. She technically doesn’t know I’m bi but my toy collection may be a clue. Lol
     
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