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Gay Awkward situation

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  1. Westicles

    Westicles Curious Explorer
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    So I'm 16 and I'm pretty sure I'm gay or bi. Anyways, I was writing a letter for one of my friends and I mentioned that I had sucked someone's dick (she already knew as I had previously told her). Anyways, my mum found the letter and read it.... so she gave me the talk about how it's OK to be gay and that she'll love me no matter what, but just that it can be a hard life to live.
    Anyway so I just denied that I was gay, and said that bit about cock sucking was a joke....
    Problem is, it's really awkward between us now. I'm not looking to come out to her or anything, just wondering if you guys have any tips to end the awkwardness?

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    It sounds like you have a good supportive mum there which is great as not everyone has that. She isn't fooled by what you have said about it being a joke though and seems like she may be just giving you some time to get comfortable with the idea without any undue pressure. Only you can decide when and if you come out to her and anyone else. From reading your other post I would say don't rush to come out to her as anything just yet. Educated parents understand that things aren't necessarily totally clear with regard to sexuality, particularly in your teenage years.
     
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    Thanks for the advice

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    Hopefully, you're not thinking of dating the girl you mentioned in your other post for the sake of persuading your mother that you're straight after all. That would be using the girl, and your mother would figure it out pretty soon.

    Since everybody else thinks you're gay, it's logical that your mother wouldn't be the only one in the dark -- letter or no letter. The awkwardness is probably more on your part than hers -- you're the one not ready to talk about it. It sounds like she'll be ready when you are, though, so the sooner you can get past the common adolescent trait of automatically lying to your mother, the easier life will be for both of you.
     
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    Wow! That was really passive aggressive... And no, I would never plan on using someone like that - the reason I wanted to date her was because I thought she was an awesome person who would be fun to possibly go out with. And for your knowledge, this is the one time I've lied to my mum, and im pretty sure it's safe to say a large number of people on this chat have lied to their parents over their sexuality (and I'm not saying that makes it right, im just saying that I'm not ready for her to know yet, as I'm still working out who I am). Also, sorry for the late reply, as I've had some issues with my phone

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    I know you’d never use the girl, nothing in your comment suggested you would but I’d say the hard work has been done. You’ve came out to your mom accidentally but it’s still coming out. She now knows, even though you said it was just a joke and she had no problems with it. So I’d just say to her that what you said was a joke, actually wasn’t a joke and I’m sure she’d be fine with it as you’re already 90% of the way there.
     
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    Thanks for the advice luckily the relationships pretty good now

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    Not a bad idea.... I might consider it

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    I’m in a similar situation
     
  10. Westicles

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    Yeah? It was kinda funny as I'd forgotten about this situation, but then I got a sudden influx of people replying. Even though I don't really need the advice, it's nice that people take the time to try to help me

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