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Are you akissing too?

Discussion in 'Asexual & Grey-Ace' started by MattPayne, Nov 28, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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    Just wondering how you all feel about kissing. With me, I am as apathetic towards kissing as I am towards sex. Kissing makes even less sense than sex to me. At least with sex, there is alot of sensory nerves and orgasm. But I simply cannot understand why anyone would want to kiss. Is it some sort of mouth sex? Like a sex simulation? So I thought “maybe I just don’t know till I try it”. So I tried it, tongue and all, and just as I suspected there was no feeling or enjoyment whatsoever. I just felt like an idiot doing cpr for no reason. Meanwhile, she said she loved it and even said I was a very good kisser. I don’t get it, lol
     
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    I can definitely relate! I identify as Demi and the thought of anyone doing anything remotely sexual is repulsive to me. In the past when I’ve been in relationships with people I have not been sexually attracted to, kissing, snuggling, everything seemed bizarre and gross. The times I did engage them it felt like a chore. I have been in a relationship where I was sexually attracted to that person and it shocked me how differently I felt about touching, kissing, etc., but only about that person. Even when aroused the thought of someone else engaging in sex was far from pleasant.
     
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    I can relate as a panromantic asexual I find no point to kissing or sex.
     
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    this is so interesting to read..because I experienced something similar
    I have no idea how I got to this category of forum, I usually go to the lesbian section

    but when I kissed a girl I wasn't attracted to suddenly I didn't understand what's the deal with kissing at all...but with one person that attracted me, which was so rare (and I'm considering I might be demisexual too) it felt completely different even though not from the start

    thank you for sharing this as I could relate and maybe understand myself a little bit more
     
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    There are scientifically proven benefits of kissing another person , like the fact it boosts immune system , reduces stress and anxiety etc.
    It doesnt state anywhere tho it has to be full on french kissing , even a peck on the cheek can work .
    Im personally not akissing but there are benefits. Kisses can also be used as a gesture for example if a mother kisses a childs head or an ouchie ya know.
     
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    I like the idea of kissing, but I never have because I haven't yet met anyone I want to kiss. The thought of kissing most people is ew. If it's possible to be demiromantic, that is me lol.
     

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