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Any advice on going on a date with non-binary person?

Discussion in 'Agender/Non-Binary/Fluid' started by ThatGuy1998, Jul 23, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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    Hi! So recently one cute, sweet, caring, funny and smart AFAB non-binary person caught my eye...and we started to date! Now they're my datemate! :) 

    I'm so lucky! They're amazing and they're in love with me! Yippee!

    Any advice on how to behave around them? Any advice on going on a date with non-binary person (particularly with an agender)? Really don't wanna fuck up...

    Thanks in advance for your help :) 
     
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    Treat them like you would any other person that you would date, with respect. Make sure to use their correct pronouns, use the terms that they want to use (ie. partner, datemate, enbyfriend, lover). A big thing to remember that I've personally had trouble with is to always use people's correct pronouns, even if you're mad at them. The fact that you're asking about this is great though, I wish you luck.
     
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    But before them I only dated men and women. How should I treat them?

    Also, I think they've been very dysphoric lately. Do you think I should buy them a binder?
     
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    I've been in a long term relationship with a non binary AFAB but they are more on the male side. He (I call him a he and he's fine whichever I call him) gets very bad dysphoric days. The best thing for you to do with your love is to just love them. Show them what they mean to you and make them feel like their gender doesn't matter, because for you I can tell it doesn't. You seem very smitten with your new love. It won't be easy loving a non binary but like anyone all they want is to be accepted and loved for who they are and how they feel. The best advice I can give you is talk to this person if you feel you aren't sure what to do. All the best to you and your new Love
     
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    Don't be afraid to ask questions when you are unsure. Be honest upfront that this is a seminew experience for you. Ask if there's anything you should know upfront or any preferences they have.

    Also if things get physical make sure to talk about boundaries up front. Don't be afraid to be honest and if you are confused just ask.

    Most people are understanding and as long as they can see you are making a good faith effort they will cut you some slack if you mess up.
     

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