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  1. Elele

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    Hi guys

    I’ve been seeing/dating a guy for the past four or so months now. We’ve had a lot of intercourse and such, we do the general stuff that two people would do together. However needing some tips about anal sex! Basically long story short is - it hurts. Bad. I can’t seem to let him get it in. We did it once where it felt great, but then we didn’t see each other for awhile due to distance and so we tried it again once we met up. I just couldn’t, I had to stop altogether and I ruined the mood.

    Is anal sex all about the angles? Or am I just a loser? Because I’ve tried laying on my back, doggy and sitting on top of him but it always just sends a really, REALLY sharp pain through me. It hurts so bad and I can’t do it.

    We don’t use condoms (we have spoken, tested etc) and we use lube. Just wondering if anyone has any tips about positions, different angles and ways to make it hurt less and so the experience is pleasurable? We want to do it together so badly that it is becoming a problem.

    Thanks!
     
  2. Jianghu
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    Lots of people have been in your situation. Probably every one who's ever bottomed, in fact.

    Anal intercourse is literally an athletic event. Your body has to be "in shape" - and that applies to both participants. Bottoms, in particular, need to "stretch".

    Practice with a dildo or another smooth object that won't cause injury. As you get better with it, you'll notice that your breathing and muscular control will improve. The more confident you are, the better the penetration will feel, and vice versa.

    Right now, your nervousness is probably worsening the pain, causing you to clench up, rather than relaxing at the proper moments.
     
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  3. BiBiLife
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    Hi Elele ,

    Are you accustomed to taking something inside you? Start with fingers and work up to taking a dildo. Always use lube! With patience and practice, you'll be able to accept him, no problem.

    Positions are another matter. When my partner and I did anal for the first time, that's the only thing that gave us trouble. Doggy style worked best for us.

    Best,
    BiBi
     
  4. RuneBeau
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    There's some info in this thread here that might be helpful.
    Anal sex requires that you train your sphincter to allow penetration otherwise your body will fight against it causing pain. Start small and stop if there's ever pain. Negative feeling reinforces negative reaction, just like with the gag reflex, you don't want to trigger your body to tense up or it's going to tense up more easily in the future.
     

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