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  1. Being.
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    I still believe in love, in finding that guy who will want a relationship and sweep me off my feet, but everywhere I look it's all hollow hookups

    Am I being unrealistic?
    Should I just get used to the idea I'll probably have to sleep around to find someone and get started?
    Or should I hold onto my hopes and wait for "the one" wherever the fuck his slow ass is hiding?
     
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    It's not unrealistic if you're at least creating opportunities, if you're not then it is more a wishful fantasy. What are you doing to get yourself mingling apart from avoiding the hookups? (Which I avoid as I don't understand why it's enjoyable, I'd rather wait - so I'm biased.)
     
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    I think it's more unrealistic to think you'll find the one through hollow hook ups
     
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    My earlier post under Transgender touches on a similar issue. I think our cultural scale in that respect is balanced in favor of more casual attitudes toward relationships.
     
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    Well I guess I should prepare myself to be single for a long a** time because me and casual don't see eye to eye. Haha!
     
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    You see that's the thing, there isint a gay culture here outside of hookups, so I can't mingle or get to know anyone, there aren't any gay cafes, or bars, and no events.

    Me and hookups aren't going to work because I crave something real, but it feels like I'm going to have to sacrifice this part of myself to even find someone at all

    Though last time I tried to meet a hookup, I ran away cause things got... weird
    So I'm not gonna try that again.

    I just wish that sleeping around wasn't all that people think being Gay is about here
     
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    Have you considered moving to Australia my friend? :) 
     
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    I think the heat would destroy me xD
    But on the plus side, delta goodrem concerts
     
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    I'm still waiting myself for the one and decided not to sleep around that's what I suggest you do
    I find it's pretty hard for me being bisexual their is so many common misconceptions number being I'm confused and pick a side I always tell the way you were born gay or straight I was born bi but more often than not people don't believe that which really really sucks and it's hard to find someone willing to date me because I'm bi
    Plus there is no bi clubs to go to
    Alright everyone you can stop hiding rant over :) 
     
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    Mood
     
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    I'm sorry I'm a little ditsy sometimes what do you mean when you say mood are you asking me what my mood is right now?
     
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    I mean what you said is my mood.
    Sorry, it may not be a common saying where you are, but over here it's common to say or post something you agree with and say "mood"
     
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    Thanks for clearing that up for me I guess that's not common where I'm from but I'll remember that from now on
    The student becomes the teacher :) 
     
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    I think you'll have to actively search for a more casual friendly lgbt event. Like queer friendly climbing club.
    If there aren't any there, I suggest moving to a more fitting environment.
    What's important is to be completely out as gay while putting yourself in situations where you might make friends, not hookups.

    You also might want to start focusing more on yourself than a prince in white armour. If you focus on cultivating and improving yourself and going out on event to do so, you'll attract more people and opportunities.

    Also, summer's coming and there will be queer pride events at least some hours of driving away, won't there?
     
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    I'm no relationship expert by any means but I don't think it is unrealistic to have a good and lasting relationship with someone. I am that way too. I don't do hookups or anything like that myself. I'm old fashioned, and want to grow old with someone someday. Keep your head up high, the right guy will find you. You're a good guy, Being, any guy would be lucky to have you. ~Bakura
     

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