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am I trans???

Discussion in 'Questioning & General LGBT' started by W-w-whatsgoingon¿, Nov 24, 2020.  |  Print Topic

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  1. W-w-whatsgoingon¿

    Nov 24, 2020
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    I recently identified myself as a female heteroromantic asexual but I've ALWAYS had sexual thoughts with men but with myself as a man. I'm not sexually attracted to guys as a girl and I would most likely never have sex as a girl but as a guy I would definitely do it. So I think that doesn't make me a heteroromantic asexual?

    Ever since I was young people always joked that I should've been born as a guy and that it would've made a lot of sense, I always joked about it as well. I've never experienced hatred with being referred to as female or having female parts but if I were a boy I'd still like feminine stuff. That's why I'm unsure as to what I am? I don't think I've experienced gender dysphoria before but when I think about being a guy I get giddy inside and it feels like only then I can have the sexual relations I actually want.

    I don't want to have sex with men as a woman but I do want to have sex, just only as a man. I have thought of myself as being a guy before, I kinda grew up thinking about it cause of the whole joke thing (that may have impacted badly on me actually now that I think about it).

    I'm just REALLLLLLY confused because I'm not sure I can even call myself a heteroromantic asexual because I WANNA have sex with guys JUST AS A GUY MYSELF. I've always been drawn to guy and guy relationships as well as porn and imagined myself as a dude countless times since I was 11 (I'm 17 now). I've been researching trans stories and stuff and I don't feel like I belong there but idk where else I'd fit in? I also research gender reassignment surgeries and the process as well as been watching videos of people describing the process and I would like to do it.

    I just don't know if I should because I haven't struggled with being a female excessively as a child and haven't had any BAD gender dysphoria (I've just been really insecure about my female body and always said if I were a boy my body would be better)

    Now of this probably makes any sense haha
  2. Bornunderabadsign

    Bornunderabadsign Enby on the loose!
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    Oct 22, 2017
    Birmingham, AL
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    Definitely seems like you could be. cisgendered people don't normally want to be the opposite gender.
  3. Jo A

    Jo A ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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    Nov 22, 2018
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    Welcome to a safe and wonderful site to be you and find you.

    We listen, support and do not judge.

    I am going to suggest you find a LGBTQ therapist. This will help you work through your acceptance of who you are.

    Would you get support from home?

    What are your plans after high school?

    Remember, this is your road and you are driving. You got this.

    Be proud you are doing it now and know in the end, after acceptance, embracing and Loving who you are, you will have a great foundation under you to grow on.

    Be you and be strong. We are here for you - Jo

    PS - keep us updated - Jo
  4. TheLazyLauren

    TheLazyLauren Lurker

    Nov 29, 2020
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    Oh my gosh!! I just made a post struggling with the same thing! I can't really help you or explain it because I'm confused about it too, but I totally get where you are coming from! You're not alone ~ good luck!

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