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Discussion in 'Gay' started by Being., Jul 19, 2018.  |  Print Topic

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  1. Being.
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    So... I've been experimenting with anal play lately. And i have to say, it does nothing for me. Apart from confirm that I can take large sized items with ease.
    I get pretty much no sensation from it and it's not this wonderful "OMG" moment like depicted most places.
    So like, am i broken or just not gay enough? whatever that even means?
    Like, if my body can't even enjoy this, then what's the point of ever being with someone and giving myself to them if I won't enjoy it. Idk. It's bothering me.
     
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    Well first, plenty of gay guys don’t like anal, and plenty of non-gay guys do, so don’t think you’re ‘not gay enough’, it doesn’t work that way. Second, it’s all about technique. Don’t just plough away, massage and look for the prostate. Maybe don’t go only anal but put a butt plug or vibrator in and masturbate conventially. Maybe tease yourself a little first and then ease in.

    See what you like and, if it’s not doing anything for you, that’s fine! Might be worth a little ‘practice’ in case a partner also isn’t into it and you’ve both got to compromise a little.

    Ginny xxx
     
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    I don’t think I’ll get pleasure from anal play unless I get a dildo which I’m just too embarassed to buy
     
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    I'm not big on it. I enjoy it sometimes but it's far from my favourite thing. That aside the only criteria for being gay is attraction to the same sex. Everything else is optional. Not liking anal play doesn't suddenly make you heterosexual. There is no such thing as being "not gay enough", so don't beat yourself up.
     
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    Someone told me once that anal play with fingers didn’t give them any sensation at all. Which is what it’s like for me. But when they got a dildo they managed to make themselves cum and the sensation was great. So maybe a larger object will do the job. I wish I could get my hands on a dildo to try it out for myself. I want to enjoy anal stimulation because I do eventually want to bottom for someone
     
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    Anal has nothing to do with being gay or not being gay. Some people like it, others don't (no matter their orientation).
    It might just mean that you're a top and not a bottom. Just find a guy who's a bottom. ;-)
     
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    Which in this case has an amusing double meaning ;) 
     
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    I don't think it does for me but it did at one time.
    eBay ;) 
     
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    Fingers just feel weird for me. It's the nail. It doesn't sit well.
     
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    I can confirm that a nice dildo makes all the difference :) 
     
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    Well cut the nails first mate ;)  I mean it is nice to get a whole finger all the way in so you’re practically riding the finger but I never get enough Vaseline on to lube it up properly and it just ends up hurting. I definitely need to try out some toys
     
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    It's not that the nails are too long, no matter how short they are I can still feel the hardness of the nail. They would have to be completely removed for it to be comfortable. So no fingers for me.
     
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    Vaseline isn't the best lube. I wouldn't use it. There are some that are meant for this.
     
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    I can’t just go out and bring lube home with me I use what’s discreet and available to me
     
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    You can, small bottles. Silicon lube 30ml. That’s discreet and better.
     
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    Need a nice dildo to oil up then next or an actual dick. Can’t just carry on using my fingers
     
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    There is no rush, although dongs come small too.
     
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    I'm incredibly ticklish in that area so its a bit of a challenge for me. Being very sensuous too I like as much of me to touch as much of the other person as possible rather than concentrating on a specific area.
     
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    I just have my dildo and lube stored in a bag in my room. Hope no one looks in it :O

    I like water based lubes :) 
     
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    Waterbased is good because it won’t damage any materials.
    But It sure does dry quick.
     

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